In 1994 I was assaulted by my husband, a police officer with LAPD; he slammed me into the wall and fractured my arm in front of our daughters and kids I was watching. He had already been verbally and mentally abusive for the last two years. I contacted my attorney right away who took pictures and took my declaration to court. I left the next day after getting a Temporary Restraining Order; we went to court a few weeks later where I was granted permission to move to northern California. I didn’t find out until after moving that I was not given a permanent restraining order because we never went in front of the judge on the domestic violence issue. I was never told how it all worked. He got away with it. Two years later, 1996, during an exchange with our girls my ex was upset again. In yet another rage my ex slammed my leg with the car door refusing to release the door from my leg, I was 5 months pregnant, and my boyfriend had to get out of the car to get him to back off. Our daughters and his wife were also witness to his behavior. I called the Bakersfield PD where the incident happened and of course they said they would take no further action to my claim even though they had a report and picture of my injury.
I tried to warn his new wife about the type of person he was; she told me she knew he didn’t mean it and would never do such a thing to her. In 2006 my ex came to my house over a personal issue with our daughter. He was forcing his way into my house and ended up running off after stealing my cell phone from me. I contacted Modesto PD who of course wrote the report with many discrepancies not to my surprise and he later tried to file criminal charges against me, which were later rejected. Again he got away with abusing his authority. Now in May of this year he became violent with the wife that I warned years before. The same games are being played with her now; the PD does not want to do anything against their officer. Not only did I warn his wife of who he was, I also warned Modesto PD who chose to make it a joke and tell my ex everything that was said, after they told me that what I was saying was confidential in his back ground investigation. I am glad they are so proud of their officer that they tell me they hold to a higher standard.
The worst part of all is every since I left he promised that he would turn our daughters against me when they became older. He has done a good job at this with our oldest. Even though the courts acknowledged his alienating our daughters against and the last of supervision at his house, the courts did nothing. Not only will the legal system not protect us from domestic violence, they won’t even protect our children from the lasting effects of the domestic violence.
