Quote From: krys02I am 27years old, and have been with my boyfriend for four years.. The thing is at the start of the relationship I didnt t hink I wanted a kid, I mean I was younger and thinner and only thought about living MY life. Well now the time has went on and I have no grown so in love with this man we have decided that we will stay together, now I also have decided that I have seen him with his 3 kids, and well he is 15years older than, and his kids are grown, and I want that experience. The joy of bearing his child. THe struggles and the pleasures that may come along, and he has said he didnt want anymore, but I have heard him say that if he could have gone back and done it all with me he would in an instant. I just dont know how to talk to him about my need. I want a child, I want to feel that love, that joy, I want to feel what its like to know tht him and I made that out of love. I have told him many scary things from time to time, but really his kids are having kids now and I just dont think he would want to start over at his age, but I know I want a child, I dont feel right, I have this great man this pretty great life, I mean things could always be worse, but this I have been thinking about for a while now, and I still havent figured out a way to tell him I want a child, and I havent done anything behind his back, I would never do anything like that to him I love him and know he loves me too and would have the same respect for me.. Anyone out there with any advice?
You must tell your boyfriend of your desire or you are lying to him by omission. This feeling is not going to go away unless you resolve it in some way. The best way to do that is to tell him the truth. Could it be that you are afraid that he will tell you "no children" and it will force you to make a decision that you don't want to make (leaving him)? Tell him.
