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December 13, 2007, 11:18 am PST
12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom
Quote From: jorjonesI would like to know if you have any children, and if so are they biological or adopted?
So many people, who have biological children of their own mind you, make ignorant comments and just say "Oh what's the big deal, if you can't procreate then why not adopt?...there are sooooo many children in need in this world who need a loving home".
Couples (especially women) that are going through infertility have just about heard it all... and minimizing their problem and trying to fix it with any easy solution is not fair to them. Adoption is just as emotionally draining and expensive. I have both struggled with infertility and adopted. I have also been blessed with a biological child after 16 years of not being able to conceive. I am not attempting to minimize anyone's pain, but not only can adoption be "just as emotionally draining and expensive." It is also every bit as wonderful, rewarding, a miracle, a blessing, a gift, etc. It is all that is wonderful about becoming a parent. I have to be honest, after a painful and often frightening pregnancy, I prefered my eldests entry into the family. Adoption is a choice to become a parent, if becoming a parent is the goal, not just giving birth. They are two seperate events, one comes with time and love.
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