Quote From: jlaubenheimerThe famous comments from people who have never dealt with infertility! Of course adoption is an option...everyone knows it...it doesn't even need to be suggested. But infertility is a long hard road...and just throwing out a "solution" is truly an ignorant statement. A person doesn't just jump from being infertile to adopting...there are many emotional hurdles they must get through first...not the least of which is excepting that you will never have a biological child of your own. Oh...and adoption laws around the country are changing making even that option so much more difficult.
Dr. Phil...your guest wasn't the only one who cringed when you told her she needs to relax!! Yes...of course being able to relax when you are faced with the possibility that you may never have the child you are so desparate for would be ideal...but anyone who has been through it knows it is virtually impossible!!
I personally have been through 6 iuis...and 4 IVFs and am fortunate to have two beautiful children to show for our efforts! It was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with...phyisically, emotionally, and financially.!
Couldn't have said it better.
Everyone knows that adoption is always an option... but be respectful to the fact that adoption is not always the solution...it's not for everyone.
If I would have accepted the fact that since I'm infertile and need some medical help, then I would not have my two children with me today. I see nothing wrong with seeking medical help and spending MY MONEY on IVF instead of adoption. That's our choice.
I do believe though that BOTH husband and wife need to be in agreement together, and didn't 100% agree with Dr Phil today. But, also who is to say that if they would get a divorce, she moves on and has a baby, and then her ex-husband feels he missed out and regrets the decision....it's just a risk they have to take, either way.
