Replies to '12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom'

Quote From: pocket523

I realize you think you are being helpful when you tell someone who is struggling with infertility that they should consider adoption; however, having struggled with infertility for 5 years, I can tell you from personal experience how insensative, inconsiderate and uneducated such a comment really is.  Until you experience the hell of struggling to concieve, you have absolutely no business dispensing solutions!  Adoption is a wonderful experience for some parents; however, it is NOT a "next best thing" to having your own biological child (and it NEVER should be!)  It is a completely different experience, one that should not be considered "the next best thing" when trying to become a parent.  I don't know whether to be outraged by the insensativity of this message or sad that this person is so clearly uncompassionate.  How dare you tell infertile couples to "just accept their life where they're at."  The pain of infertility is so deep and so personal, it is appalling to read such an insensative comment.  I'll admit, in the 5 years we struggled, I was faced with many comments like this.  Thank you Dr. Phil for bringing this subject into the spotlight.  It's so rare that anyone tries to tackle this issue, and it's very clear by this mindless, obtuse message, that it's a topic that needs to be discussed.  I hope you'll continue to do more features on infertility so those facing the unimaginable pain of infertility don't have to continue to be bruised by these simple-minded, hurtful remarks.

Quote From: pocket523

I realize you think you are being helpful when you tell someone who is struggling with infertility that they should consider adoption; however, having struggled with infertility for 5 years, I can tell you from personal experience how insensative, inconsiderate and uneducated such a comment really is.  Until you experience the hell of struggling to concieve, you have absolutely no business dispensing solutions!  Adoption is a wonderful experience for some parents; however, it is NOT a "next best thing" to having your own biological child (and it NEVER should be!)  It is a completely different experience, one that should not be considered "the next best thing" when trying to become a parent.  I don't know whether to be outraged by the insensativity of this message or sad that this person is so clearly uncompassionate.  How dare you tell infertile couples to "just accept their life where they're at."  The pain of infertility is so deep and so personal, it is appalling to read such an insensative comment.  I'll admit, in the 5 years we struggled, I was faced with many comments like this.  Thank you Dr. Phil for bringing this subject into the spotlight.  It's so rare that anyone tries to tackle this issue, and it's very clear by this mindless, obtuse message, that it's a topic that needs to be discussed.  I hope you'll continue to do more features on infertility so those facing the unimaginable pain of infertility don't have to continue to be bruised by these simple-minded, hurtful remarks.

Quote From: pocket523

I realize you think you are being helpful when you tell someone who is struggling with infertility that they should consider adoption; however, having struggled with infertility for 5 years, I can tell you from personal experience how insensative, inconsiderate and uneducated such a comment really is.  Until you experience the hell of struggling to concieve, you have absolutely no business dispensing solutions!  Adoption is a wonderful experience for some parents; however, it is NOT a "next best thing" to having your own biological child (and it NEVER should be!)  It is a completely different experience, one that should not be considered "the next best thing" when trying to become a parent.  I don't know whether to be outraged by the insensativity of this message or sad that this person is so clearly uncompassionate.  How dare you tell infertile couples to "just accept their life where they're at."  The pain of infertility is so deep and so personal, it is appalling to read such an insensative comment.  I'll admit, in the 5 years we struggled, I was faced with many comments like this.  Thank you Dr. Phil for bringing this subject into the spotlight.  It's so rare that anyone tries to tackle this issue, and it's very clear by this mindless, obtuse message, that it's a topic that needs to be discussed.  I hope you'll continue to do more features on infertility so those facing the unimaginable pain of infertility don't have to continue to be bruised by these simple-minded, hurtful remarks.