Replies to '12/07 A Killer Among Us'

Quote From: gander

 I grew up in a family where there was a lot of abuse. My mother and father were in their teens when they married. My mother was 17 and my Dad was 18...My mother turned 17 in Sept. and was married in Oct. She was just a child..I was born when my mom was 18, Dad was 19. I have two other sisters. What kind of a life we had, can only be described as abusive and angry. My Dad would beat my Mom and then he would think nothing of abusing us. Not always physical, but verbal was almost always. They finally divorced when my youngest sister was 18. My Dad sat us down and said they were divorcing, and he wanted us to appreciate the fact that they waited until we were grown. He asked for our response. My response, Are you Kidding?? You made our homelife HELL and now you are telling us, you stayed together for our benefit. They would of done us kids a favor, had they divorced when we were little. The only reason my Dad wanted the divorce???He found someone else. My mother was devastated, and believe me, she took her time to get over this.  It was for the best. She found a job, got a car, an apartment, and for once in her life, she was free from abuse. That was several years ago. If she speaks about it today...this is her quote,"I could of taken the beatings, but the cheating on me, I could never take." Is this not pathetic or what??I asked why she allowed us to be beaten...her answer..I was told to shut up, and if I said anything I would be next!!! Needless to say, my sisters and I don't discuss this with her, we know how she feels. She honestly thinks, staying for us, so we could have a home, was the sacrifice she made. Please, don't ever think for a minute that your children (if you have some) will ever hate you for getting them and yourself out of that kind of life. I wish my Mom would of done it. My memories are not happy!!! God Bless You