Quote From: anita45
I have been married 4 years and have a 4 year old boy. my husband has always verbally abused me. name-calling, shouting, fits of rage. he is an alcoholic. drinks around 15 beers a night. i quit my job of 10 years in May of 2007 because i could not handle the stress of my home life and work and a child. he has recently, in the last 6 weeks started physical abuse. he has belly bumped me into a corner, hit me in the side of the head with his hand, and actually spit on me and my little boy . he has told me if i ever call 911 that the police will have to scrape me up offf the floor when they get here. his friend works for the police in our township so he always tells me he'll get out of it anyway. i feel TRAPPED! don't want to tell my parents. they are older and are both going through alot of stress right now, as is my entire family because my niece is dying of bone cancer. not sure what to do or when!
anita in ohio
Anita, please leave, you and your son deserve so much better. Go to the shelter, get help. I know what you mean about not wanting to bother anyone especially your parents, but honey, you need help, i didn't tell my family because i was scared that if he knew they knew he would kill them. My father underwent cancer treatment and when they could get over to Australia they came when i needed them. My father has had secondary cancer last year after 4 years being cleared but i reached out. I think if something happened to you, they would be more upset with that, please please, please, get help and get out.
You have support here and i bet a hundred friends who know where you are coming from, you are not alone.
Please Anita, get out. He is not worth it and you deserve so much better, both of you for your safety and your sons safety. He will be scarred with this, my children have suffered because i didn't leave sooner but everything will turn out better in the long run, even though it looks bleak and horrible.
Lots of love
Yvonne, NZ
