Quote From: twox2mns0You're not making Christmas hard for your Fiance...he is, but not deliberately. Complicated grief is difficult to live with. Ten years is a long time, but to him, his loss could seem like yesterday.
He wants to move on with his life or he would not be with you. Guilt for wanting to love and laugh again might be keeping him down. He might feel like he's betraying his deceased wife and won't give himself permission to completely move on with his life.
There are many things that can be catalysts to his grief. Sometimes they can't be separated. Complicated grief can cause depression, sadness, anger/rage, hostility, resentment, severe remorse, helplessness, and turning off memories is impossible.
Perhaps he doesn't know how to manage being a survivor, and he might need grief counselling.
Just be happy around him and maybe it will rub off.
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. Grief counseling definately sounds like something he needs, although a family member suggested that to him soon after his wife passed away and he thought they were wrong, so I don't want to be the one to "rock the boat" sort of speak.
He did manage to go out shopping for specific items over the past 3 days, once by himself, so I know he is trying very hard and that's something he hasn't done for years.
Thanks
