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jettav

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October 8, 2005, 6:45 pm PDT

Hey Bill

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Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

Actually, I HAVE been to my husband's work and have helped him with projects. In fact, just recently he called me from work cause he was stressed about a deadline and was having problems with a computer program. He just wanted to hear my voice and needed some encouragement. No, I couldn't help casue I had absolutely no idea, I was clueless but I did try to encourage him and by the time we were finished talking, he felt better and was home within the next two hours and we had a wonderful evening together. WE decided that we BOTH deserved a nice quiet evening together as the girls were snoozin away so dishes were left in the sink and laundry was folded but still in the baskets but that was no big deal. Would you have been able to call your wife for encouragement or would that have interfered with her duties as your wife? Would you have been ok with the dinner dishes setting in the sink and laundry in the baskets just to spend some alone time with your wife,(and by the way, all we did was talk and discussed some future plans)Does your wife have any say in future plans as a couple or do you make all those decissions? Any way, just wanted to add more wonderful things about my hubby. I wonder how often your wife brags about all the wonderful things that you do and how good she has it living with you and how much you help in taking care of the children, for your sake as well hers, I really do pray that you have a great marriage relationship and that the two of you are on the same page for it would be ashame to have your marriage end because of your self righteous attitude, maybe I have gotten the wrong impression of you through your post and for that I do apologize but if I what I understand is true then you need to lighten up some and enjoy and encourage your wife.....

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mlrocz

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October 8, 2005, 9:15 pm PDT

Bill - you're pathetic

Quote From: chadswick

Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

I have helped my husband at work B4 when it was allowed.

I'm in school you dolt and taking care of my child when my husband is working. Face it, life with a partner is about give and take. You can't just work outside of the home and expect to do zip for your spouse (goes either way)

What does child support have to do with keeping kids from their father? Child support was instituted so that mothers or fathers could run the household financially as if the parental unit were still in tact.

Sounds like you have a problem with women period. I suggest you wear the dress and get some nice pumps to wear the dress out on the town in.

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October 9, 2005, 8:51 am PDT

You need help

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Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

I don't think you are in the place to tell anyone what their position is. I would like to know what you think the characteristics of a woman who will leave just to collect child support from her poor husband. When was the last time you walked in the door with some flowers for your wife or made her want to have some muffins cooked when you got in. It is not about a place in society it is about respect. Being macho does not make you a man.

I raised a child on my own without any child support and looking back on it now that wasn't right I wasn't the only person responsible for my child, but I loved her and would not submit her to having to be with someone who did not love her enough to want to take care of her without being forced.

If worrying about having to pay child support is a problem I have a solution (Keep your pants on).

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October 10, 2005, 12:29 pm PDT

To Men Who Want Perfect Wives:

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Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

Bill, you have a bit of a point.

There was a short period (only 1 month) when my husband was out of work and I went to work (temp agency) while he looked for a new position. I found that after working all day, I would come home and my husband-who was worn out from watching the kids all day- would want me to take the kids so he could relax.

I did. And I discovered that my husband is just as exhausted at the end of a day as I am when he gets home.

We discovered an absolutely wonderful new appreciation for each other's efforts. I have a whole new appreciation for what he does for us day in and day out, and he helps a lot more around the house. We go out of our way to let each other know how much they are loved and respected.

We now have an agreement that NEITHER of us get to rest until the kids are in bed (7:00 pm) and we ake turns giving each other a night a week out away from the house.

I would gladly treat my husband like a king... BECAUSE he treats me like a queen.

Let me say this again... HE TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN- NOT A SERVANT. And THAT'S WHY he gets' his muffins baked, his feet rubbed, and sex whenever he feels like it.

Lee Ann

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October 10, 2005, 1:00 pm PDT

10/10 Wifestyles

Quote From: chadswick

Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

Hey, Bill...LOL. I read your letter and just cracked up.
I love watching TV all day and surfing the net. I'm wondering what a nice guy like you would suggest I wear when hubby gets home?

I'd personally LOVE to go back to work full time and get my PhD--but one of us had to sacrifice life in the working lane to take care of stuff around here. I make great money working part time. I'd give my right arm to have HIM stay at home and me get the heck out of here every day.

You sound like a darn good catch, btw. What's YOUR wife do? (or wife number one, two or three?) I sure hope if you're the one at home, you put on your dress and get the drinks ready at 6:00.

OMG. Can't wait to read you on these boards everyday.

I can tell we're going to be GREAT friends :)

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October 10, 2005, 5:33 pm PDT

Oh my....

Quote From: chadswick

Looks like you have some issues within inside your self,

Do you go to your husbands work and help him during the day? I think not. If it wasn't for your husband you would be taking care of your kids and working because I'm sure your the type of woman that would keep your kids from you husband for the sole purpose of receiving child support. So maybe you should get off your butt and stop watching TV and surfing the NET all day.

If you are such a caring and loving person you would be able to look past all of this and accept your position in life. Remember your the Mommy, NOT the Daddy. So put on a nice dress and cook some muffins for your kids and you husband, and have them ready for him the next time he walks in the door.

Bill Jinkens

Gee Bill, what rock did you climb out from under today? There are plenty of women that are very capable of not only showing up at her husband's work, but could be his"boss". And by the way, how did you see this show and reply? On your butt watching Dr Phil and surfing the NET all day?

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