Replies to '12/19 Parents’ Ultimate Test: Dealing with Autism'
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December 15, 2007, 11:37 am PST
 Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. I am with you there on everything you wrote!!!!!!! My son Ryan was diagnosed with autism back in Oct 2003 i been fighting the school district cause they just put him down is worldly challenged, instead of autistic.... he has come so far from that time since first finding out what was wrong with him, i am thankful it is not as bad as in some cases his is mostly speech.....they recently changed his diagnoses to speech & language impairments. He has changed so much since i had another baby so he is not an only child & trys to help me out with his baby brother...... |
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December 15, 2007, 2:25 pm PST
Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. http://www.abc.net.au/science/news/health/HealthRepublish_1709159.htm] Fetal brains are watery mucuos like organs. Ultrasound is done to let impatient parents know the sex and "what their baby looks like." They are also done to protect physicians from malpractice. Ultrasound is radio waves that bounce off the hard and soft tissue of the fetus to create an image. We've only done ultrasounds routinely in the past 20 years. Vaccinations have been around much longer. As far as mercury goes, there has been mercury in the environment since we began burning coal for power plants and industry and heating. Probably far less today than 50 years ago. I'm much more interested in prevention that treatment. It would be interesting to ask parents of autistic children if they had ultrasound.
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December 19, 2007, 5:14 am PST
Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. My son is 7 now and he was diagnosed autistic(pdd-nos) at age 3. Although, his behavior can be a challenge, he is not violent. He throws tantrums when is routine is messed with(2 hour delays can be fun) and other things. I am thankful my son is autistic, somedays I may not seem it, but I truly am, he is a bright spot on a bad day. :) He has overcome so much and we just love him so.
I just wanted to point out that I agree with this poster that it's not the same on everyone and children with autism are very rarely violent. And that learning about the diagnosis is your best defense. :) Thank-you. |
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December 19, 2007, 10:48 pm PST
Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. I , after watching the show today, 12/19/07, am worried even more than ever that my precious little angel may be mistreated in school. I have a granddaughter with autism. As I watched the show today, I cried. I am so upset about what has happened to these children. This teacher should be punished to the fullest extent of the law. This has also reminded me of how cruel her peers can be. Jaclyn has said " I am sorry, I am so stupid." She has heard this at school, because I KNOW she has not ever been called stupid by any family member or friends of the family. I am also very upset with my son-in-law for being so pig headed as to not allow any testing before she was five years old. Early detection is of the utmost importance. He simply denied that there was a problem. My daughter finally took her to a specialist when she was five, alone, he would not go with them. I baby sat with her younger brother, or I would have gone with them. Jaclyn gets very upset when she sees a doctor, When she was a little baby, less than a year old, she would scream to no end when either of her grand fathers came to their home to visit. She would cry for the duration of the visit. My husband, after realizing this, would stay out side of the house when we went to visit, he didn't want to upset jaclyn. Then the day came when Jaclyn decided to go to her "Pappy", on her terms. She went to him and hugged him, asking if he was ok!! He was elated, as we all were. At one point, she even cried when I visited, normally she and I were close, connected in a way, I simply told her to go play, that I didn't come to see her, (but I really had) that I had come to see her brother and mommy and daddy. This worked in our case. After doing this twice, she stopped crying ahen we visited. She now calls me her best friend. She is doing so much better, in all areas. She does not communicate like "normal" kids. She asks the questions that she wants us to ask her. She more often than not will run into my arms when she sees me, Telling me that she has missed me. She is socializing so much better now. She still has trouble conversing as other kids do, but when she does converse, she uses a more mature language than what kids her age would normally do. She is a whiz at spelling, likes to read, can do math, doesn't understand decimals, needs help staying focused doing her school work. Seems to have a photografic memory. She can watch a video and then act the part and sing all the songs in the movie. A sweet little girl. She has progressed so much, but still, is not the typical nine year old. She likes to write in the diary that I had given her- a great resource for her mother- this way my daughter can read it, learn of her thoughts that she can not relay orally. We are so blessed, Jaclyn is able to speak, can read and write and can talk with us, in her way, She is a loving child, she can empathise, she shows concern for others. Jaclyn's great grandmother had arthritis and of course was in a lot of pain with it. Jaclyn would go to her and gently pat her aching shoulder and say" it will be alright, Granny" or ask if she was all right. Then go get her polly pockets and sit with Granny , playing with her toys. She would also carry Granny's cane to her and hold her hand as she walked. Granny is in Heaven now, but Jaclyn has never forgotten her. These children are very intelligent, but sadly can not relate like others, they are definitly not stupid! I try to gather as much information as I can to share with my daughter, who is a wife, raising two young children, one with autism, and she works at her job, and is owner of a dance &/pom pom team, and manages her home. She is amazing. Jaclyn is now dancing with the team and is in cheerleading. She may not always do the steps or cheers perfectly, but she is getting experience mingling with the other kids and performing in front of a crowd of people. WE ARE BLESSED. I just pray that as she enters her teens and matures that no one takes advantage of her. I pray that she continues to progress to the point where she will be able to live on her own one day, with some supervision. |
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December 20, 2007, 6:31 am PST
Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. This was very inspirational. Thank you. |
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December 20, 2007, 12:20 pm PST
Quote From: califlori After reading this shows intro about the child's violent behavior, it worries me that many people will view others with autism as potentially violent and even fear them. Violence is unusual for a person with autism. It is not the norm but gets the most attention of course. Since my son was diagnosed in March of 2000, I've been studying this disorder and hope that the show conveys to viewers that autism does NOT look the same on every person and each person with autism has a range of mild to severe behaviors that can arise. Many behaviors come and go as the child explores his world around him, tries to assimilate into the environments we've created and tries to desensitize himself to what can be overwhelming environmental triggers due to heightened senses. We need to have compassion because the population of people with autism has exploded since the 1990's and many many families have made significant progress with children who may have seemed unteachable to many. This enormous and growing population of people WITH autism (NOT autistics - impolite term to many) will be all of our co-workers, neighbors, spouses, class mates and ultimately our greatest teachers in the next two decades and then beyond. Your future grandchildren and even future son-in-law may have autism. Please honor and respect them and if you know of a relative, friend, school mate, or neighbor with autism, please do not be afraid of getting to know them better. They will develop more acceptable ways of expressing themselves by watching your example and thrive with attention. Just try to ignore the autistic behaviors and treat them like everyone else. It may take practice. The child featured on the show can be helped a great deal if the parent has help, resources and does research. What has helped my son the most is nutrition and biomedical help such as determining trigger foods, allergens and ridding the body of toxic build ups of yeast, metals, preservatives. Also, five years completed of speech and occupational therapies. And most importantly, treating and interacting with him as we'd treat him if he was any other typical child. He is now age 10 and doing better than ever expected. If you love somebody whose life has been touched by autism, THEY may not have enough time and energy to go on-line and research from thousands of websites to learn about all of the wonderful and varied approaches to helping their child or loved one with autism to thrive. YOU can help by learning all you can, reading, printing info and sharing with them. I hope this helps inform someone and I sincerely will answer any questions posed as I care very much about these kids and this topic. I will be back on-line after the holidays though. Thank you for reading. I am a mother of a 13 year old boy with Asperger's Syndrome, " high functioning autism". You are right that in the sense that these children are not normally violent, but all of these children do react differently when frustrated. My child does scream, yell, kick, bang his head and wail loudly and will resist and fight any type of hold that is used to help protect him. These behaviors are a way for these children to let you know that they are frustrated and they can not control some of these feelings and emotions. Alot of times if you know what triggers these actions you can learn to avoid situations that are hard for someone who is living with autism. Even in the school environment you need to be sure that all of your child's teachers have a clear understanding of what your child lives with on a daily basis, so that they can also learn to help avoid situations that may arise and prevent a posssible total meltdown. My child is a very bright and intelligent boy who excels in his academic work at school, but struggles everyday with friendships and social issues. I really think that there needs to be more awareness in society about autism, because I'm sure that everyday day is a challenge for any person dealing with this neurological disorder. All I can say is for 13 years my life has been enhanced with joy since I gave birth to this intriging child, I do not know any other life and could not imagine what my life without this loving boy would be like. I often wonder what is going on in his mind, because it seems like the wheels are always spinning and I know that he struggles with many different emotions daily. I have spent many hours researching and trying to understand this diagnosis, but I don't think any of us will ever understand truly what our child or any other person with autism has to deal with. All of these children are amazing and offer many different insights into the world of autism. All I can say is give your child unconditional right and fight for your child in school and out in the community because many people do not think that people with autism should participate in the same things as what other children do. I think that they do and that is why I am behind my child 110% in anything that he wants to do. Thanks for reading and if anyone would like to know more about my son feel free to e-mail me at redneckwannabe@verizon.com. MERRY CHRISTMAS |
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