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October 8, 2005, 1:42 pm PDT

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

Please don't ever be offended unless you know all the facts of that situation. I tried to breast feed my son for his benefit and was unsuccessful. I produced milk but it would not come out. I attempted breast feeding my daughter hoping that what ever was the cause of my problem with my son had been resolved. No such luck! Therefore I was forced to bottle feed my children. Some time Iater, I learned that my grandmother had lost her firstborn child due to the very same thing. She tried to breast feed and didn't realize milk was not being expressed and her son starved. She never forgave herself for that. So before you pass judgment on a bottle being used.... think! That may be that childs only source of nourishment.
 
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October 8, 2005, 2:56 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

That would be so great it every one could breast feed. Just because you can be a stay at home mom does not mean the rest of us can. It is trully unfair for you to say if we choose to have a baby then we should have to give up our lives for our children. I think we train our children to grow with us and what we do. There is nothing wrong with someone feeding thier child with a bottle. If you had a pre-term baby who could not nurse and had to be fed by a syringe because there mouth could not suck properlly and then when they could, just did not like the breast maybe you would understand. My first child I nursed until he was a year old and I worked part time so he did have a bottle, it was breastmilk but you would not care. My second one grosed out on the breast at three months and did not want it anymore. Sometimes we dont get the perfect life I guess you have. So sorry if you every see me with my baby and his pacifier that I offended you!!!
 
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October 8, 2005, 3:18 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

Obviously you have NO life!  I have 3 wonderful children.   I hate to bring you into "the real world", but honey, last time I checked, I didnt have time to just sit and hold any of my kids.  My other children need me also.  So the swing was great, the infant holder was great, my arms were great when I wasnt trying to deal with my other two children....so what I am saying is good luck trying to take a shower, eat , relax with a baby ALWAYS in your arms!
 
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October 8, 2005, 3:46 pm PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

What is there to be offended about when you see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier?  How do you know that there isn't breast milk in the bottle?  I breast fed my children, they had bottles AND pacifiers.  HOW does it interfere with the way you're trying to raise your children?  As robots?  How about teaching them that everyone has differing beliefs and values, and that it's OK, although you may not agree with them, they are intitled to their own opinions and are not bad people for having different opinions?
 
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October 8, 2005, 3:53 pm PDT

The Latest Debates

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

So you are saying that if you see a child with a bottle in their mouth it is gross. Well, what about babies that are adopted, foster babies etc. not being raised by the bilogical mother for what ever reason. Or if a mother has done everything she knows to do and still can not nurse and has to bottle feed. Is it wrong and gross then? And the paicficer issue. Some babies like to suck on things. I don't hear debates about people smacking gum in public. And there are way fewer dabates about smoking in public which is unhealthy for that person and everyone around them, but yet we have to pick on mothers for doing the very best they can with as much help and support as they have. How are swings fake? They are being rocked when mom can not hold them or sometimes the baby is tired of being held! Why do we mothers have to breastfeed and stay at home cooped up inside all the time just because we are doing what God commanded us to do! Go and populate the world! So don't stand in judgement of someone when you don't know the full story!
 
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October 9, 2005, 9:35 am PDT

10/07 The Latest Debates

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I too am extremely offended when I see a baby being bottle fed or with a pacifier stuck in its mouth.  I think it is ugly and disgusting. 

It inteferes with how I am trying to raise my children.. to be healthy, to value babies and people, to discern what is true (breasts and mothers arms) and what is fake (bottles, pacifiers, baby swings, car seats as  infant holders). 

If you decide to have a baby....stay home, breastfeed, hold your baby, give of your self to your baby and someday he/she will do the same loving things for you when you are old and can't feed yourself, turn over in bed or even to talk to the person who you are completely in LOVE with and dependent upon. 

  

Hmmm.  What's more disgusting.  A bottle or pacifier or a droopy, saggy, stretchmark covered breast?  There's no competition there.  It's the droopy, saggy, stretchmark covered breast that's disgusting! 
 
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