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Quote From: cathyhod

I think you make very valid points.  You point out that there are circumstances for some people who don't breastfeed.  I knew a girl that was fondled by an uncle during her teen years and hated her breasts for that reason.  Yes, she needs to deal with that issue, too, but the subject is why some people can't, or don't, or won't.  To those who don't breastfeed, you love your babies just as much!  And don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  I owned and operated a preschool and daycare center for 17 years.  I had mothers come to the center at their convenience and sit in a rocker and nurse.  I had mothers who used formula and those that froze breastmilk.  All I saw in their eyes is they love their babies and were doing the best they could.  I didn't ask them why they don't nurse and not once did I think they were better or worse than the moms that nursed.  On the other hand I have seen people nurse but not carry on that nurturing spirits past that.  Likewise with bottle mothers.  Of all of the cases of parents that end up neglecting or abusing their children would the bottle moms say they must've been nursing moms or would the nursing moms say they must've been parents that didn't nurse their babies?  It's rediculous to have all these accusations about what parent must be better.  Research shows the nutrition value for all of us to see and it takes a lot of dedication but dedication has to last for many years beyond nursing and we should be giving each other credit.  My children were bottle fed because I could not nurse.  They are healthy, smart, college students that I have great bonds with and love for.  Just like other bottle feeding moms and just like nursing moms.