Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Truth is the mother is and should be held accountable for the initial mistake. She cheated! She knew that the child wasn't his. This isn't the Maury show, where a women tests 10 guys. She was very wrong. I think she knew the real father wouldn't contribute in anyway. This man had been taking care of her and thier children. It was an easy ride. I don't fully understand the whole child support thing. My husband pay a rediculous amount to his oldest sons mother. I know that it doesn't provide anything but shopping and weekends out for her. It's not fair! But, it happens! Regaurdless, supporting your child is a must. Supporting someone elses child, under the impression it is yours. Not cool! This shows the intergrity of the women. I feel she makes us look bad. It cheapins the family and bond they had. I undrstand how he felt hurt, used, and betrayed. He should have went about breaking the news to the girl differently. When you are all a child knows, it can be destrutive to thier world to do that. We all do things we regret at some time or another. It is clear that he wants to go back and maybe change his words to her on that day. No matter what he says, you can not turn feelings and love on-off. It is not a switch! He loves her. He just took the anger of the situation and used it. I haven't been faced with something like that. I have been betrayed by someone i love. It hurts, sure i said some things! Did i mean them, NO! It was just that point in time. But, dealing with a child is so much more complicated then that. The wrong words can cause so many issues.

I hope that he can find justice in the child support system. He should not have to pay! What is our country coming to when our laws say. so what! Do it anyway. The mother should allow a voluntary relationship. If the girl can see it to give him another chance. Hate and anger are a contagious disease. It can be spread like wildfire. All it takes it one spark, and those who keep feeding it! He admitted he was wrong. She admitted she was wrong. Everyone else stop pointing the finger. Let the healing begin! The women should start by showing good character and not accept anymore child support for her. I think that would help his healing. He should start by building a future with the child. Her forgiveness can benefit them both. After all we need to been healthy adults to rasie healthy kids.