Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

Let me give you my take on husbands and wives.  I believe very firmly in traditional roles, as there are several benefits to them in a home especially when children are involved.  I am an advocate of stay at home moms, and have a column in my community newpaer dedicated to them.  I believe husbands should respect their wives, and I believe wives should respect their husbands.  I don't think there's anything wrong with doing things for eachother, such as putting your make up on IF that's his thing.  You want the mortage paid, he wants to see you in makeup..sounds like a fair trade to me.  My husband could care less, but he does like to have dinner when he gets home.  Everytime I see the electricity is still on, I think, "yeah, I can make him some dinner."  It's a give and take.   

I struggled for a long time with my role as a wife and mother.  In some ways, I felt degraded and unappreciated.  But you know what?  My husband felt unappreciated, too.  We took each other for granted.  When we both took a deeper look inside ourselves as to what we were doing together and for our family, we became reponsible for our roles and accepted them and have learned to embrace them.  So, my husband goes to work, pays for everything, and I take care of the home and the children.  That's not to say that he doesn't help out around the house with the "manly" things (he does) and he does help with the kids at night and on the weekends, but the bulk of it falls on me.  And I am ok with that.  That's my job.  When I stopped complaining about the decision I made, it became that much easier.  I now have systems in place to help me through the day and I write in my column tips and advice for women just like me. 

It's not as hard once you're organized and accepting to run your household and please your husband.  And the more you please him, the more he will please you.  Like I said, it's a give and take.  There is nothing wrong with being a gentle, sweet wife either.  The more you show that you love your husband and want him there, the more he will do for you when you need help.  As much as we hate cleaning toilets and changing diapers, he hates going to work and doing his thing too.  So, lighten up on your man, ladies!  Be a great wife and watch him be a great husband.  Take the time you have alone at night and make the most of it, without complaining and without making him feel like you don't appreciate him.  Because if you do, he will stop appreciating you, too. 

Diana 

Let me give you my take on husbands and wives.  I believe very firmly in traditional roles, as there are several benefits to them in a home especially when children are involved.  I am an advocate of stay at home moms, and have a column in my community newpaer dedicated to them.  I believe husbands should respect their wives, and I believe wives should respect their husbands.  I don't think there's anything wrong with doing things for eachother, such as putting your make up on IF that's his thing.  You want the mortage paid, he wants to see you in makeup..sounds like a fair trade to me.  My husband could care less, but he does like to have dinner when he gets home.  Everytime I see the electricity is still on, I think, "yeah, I can make him some dinner."  It's a give and take.   

I struggled for a long time with my role as a wife and mother.  In some ways, I felt degraded and unappreciated.  But you know what?  My husband felt unappreciated, too.  We took each other for granted.  When we both took a deeper look inside ourselves as to what we were doing together and for our family, we became reponsible for our roles and accepted them and have learned to embrace them.  So, my husband goes to work, pays for everything, and I take care of the home and the children.  That's not to say that he doesn't help out around the house with the "manly" things (he does) and he does help with the kids at night and on the weekends, but the bulk of it falls on me.  And I am ok with that.  That's my job.  When I stopped complaining about the decision I made, it became that much easier.  I now have systems in place to help me through the day and I write in my column tips and advice for women just like me. 

It's not as hard once you're organized and accepting to run your household and please your husband.  And the more you please him, the more he will please you.  Like I said, it's a give and take.  There is nothing wrong with being a gentle, sweet wife either.  The more you show that you love your husband and want him there, the more he will do for you when you need help.  As much as we hate cleaning toilets and changing diapers, he hates going to work and doing his thing too.  So, lighten up on your man, ladies!  Be a great wife and watch him be a great husband.  Take the time you have alone at night and make the most of it, without complaining and without making him feel like you don't appreciate him.  Because if you do, he will stop appreciating you, too. 

Diana