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December 29, 2007, 9:21 pm PST
 Quote From: mustbecrazy My husband and I have been "platonic" for years...granted, my husband's health is a concern in the sex department. We hug and kiss, but not the romantic kind...just a quick hug...no long kisses. I just don't feel like the romance is there. BUT we love each other very deeply, and neither of us have ever cheated on the other. Our relationship has matured beyond the need for sex...does that make sense?
My husband suffers from depression, diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, and other health issues. Last time we attempted sex, he was out of breath, very rapid heart beat (worried me very much)...I just don't feel that it is worth the risk.
There are times when I would like more cuddling and more hugs...my husband spends a lot of time on the computer, playing games. We watch TV together, but the bed is strictly for sleeping in.
I'm really glad that the romance thing with us is mutual...my husband complains once in awhile, but I just don't feel safe with the physical exertion on his part. I'm worried about him having a stroke or heart attack...is this unreasonable?
When one spouse wants more intimacy than the other, it can be difficult...we went through this when we had kids...I felt like that was all my husband wanted of me...constantly grabbing my behind and making comments...which isn't the way to put a woman "in the mood"...we are definitely wired differently. We both went through individual counseling, him for depression, and me for the bipolar...both of us have childhood issues that we had to work through. If it is a big problem for you, you might consider marriage counseling, or sex counseling.
I think I've probably given out too much info...I'm glad we're anonymous here...hee hee....Becky thx for sharing that Becky... i'm glad we are anonymous too... but I hope that I say this for alot of us on here... that we are here to share and support one another... not judge.. as I see that Too many ppl in this world try to do that. We certainly do not need that here, at least i don't. I've had my mistakes just like anyone else, I am just better at writing them down (like on here) rather than to tell someone in person. I've done the whole good girl thing, as well as made some really bad choices, especially when i was a teen/young adult. I thank you for your honesty. It has been a hard issue, and I felt this was the only place I could ask/talk about it. I feel exactly the same way as you did when your children was little, that i'm just here for his pleasure, although i'm trying to see it in a different light. I feel like there is NO romance what so ever... I just want to feel that again. I appreciate your comments and thoughts Rhonda :) |
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