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January 2, 2008, 1:12 pm PST
 Quote From: moms_losing_it My husband and I have been married for 25 years. We have two healthy, smart grown up children. Our 24 year old son finished college and got his doctorate degree in Pharmacy. He married a wonderful girl this past May. Our 21 year old daughter began college right out of HS and moved out on her own last year. This past August, she moved back in our home. She was diagnosed at the age of 16 with Bipolar Disorder. She has quit college and is working part time. When she moved back home, we gave her 2 options, eithre pay $50 a week for room and board, or help with chores. She opted to help with chores. Well, neeedless to say, she has not kept her end of the bargain. She goes out drinking with her friends, and I have found out she has been drinking alone in her room. She has admitted to me she has tried cocaine 2 times, but swears she does not do it now. She has a stack of bills rubber banned not even opened sitting here and all her bills are in collections. My husband and I made her a deal when she started college that IF she finished and got her degree, we would pay for her entire schooling, but if she did not finish and dropped out, the bills were hers. We are in a great deal of college debt for her because she said her college bills are OURS. Our son is paying for his bills from college. She always says "I'm sorry I'm not as smart as my brother", and we always assure her she is not in any competition with him, nor do we expect her to out-do her brother, but rather be herself.She is very disrespectful, self-centered, irresponsible and unappreciative to my husband and me. We hate to kick her out of the house because we fear because of her Bipolar disorder she will harm herself. I have tried talking calmly to her about things and her snotty reply is "DON'T WORRY ABOT IT! I'M 21!" I feel like I am going to one day lose my cool here with her. I have even prayed to God and told him, "People say you do not give us more then we can handle. Well, I am putting my life in your hands and I ask for guidance and support" My daughter is 27 and was just diagnosed with Bi-polar also. She was cutting on herself a lot. She doesnt do it as much as she did. She also lives at home with me and I cannot get her to do much of anything. She doesnt pay anything and refuses to do work around the house. When confronted she says she didnt know what to do because I didnt tell her. That is so frustrating because at 27 she dang well knows how to clean and cook and all that. She is just totally lazy. My younger daughter ( who has 3 kids) also lives with us. She was diagnosed with Anxiety disorder and something else, plus she has fibromylgia and chronic migranes. When asked why she hasnt done anything around the house it is always an excuse also like I was too tired or my head hurt. I work every day and beleive me I have enough problems of my own both physically and mentally. I too am terrified of just throwing these girls out because I do not know what will happen to them, on the other hand maybe they would grow up and learn to do things for themselves. It is like being between a rock and a hard place. My daughters are also rude and snotty when I try to talk to them. |
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