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January 3, 2008, 6:24 am PST
 Quote From: uglyiest My daughter is 27 and was just diagnosed with Bi-polar also. She was cutting on herself a lot. She doesnt do it as much as she did. She also lives at home with me and I cannot get her to do much of anything. She doesnt pay anything and refuses to do work around the house. When confronted she says she didnt know what to do because I didnt tell her. That is so frustrating because at 27 she dang well knows how to clean and cook and all that. She is just totally lazy. My younger daughter ( who has 3 kids) also lives with us. She was diagnosed with Anxiety disorder and something else, plus she has fibromylgia and chronic migranes. When asked why she hasnt done anything around the house it is always an excuse also like I was too tired or my head hurt. I work every day and beleive me I have enough problems of my own both physically and mentally. I too am terrified of just throwing these girls out because I do not know what will happen to them, on the other hand maybe they would grow up and learn to do things for themselves. It is like being between a rock and a hard place. My daughters are also rude and snotty when I try to talk to them. I was releived to say the least to read messages posted from others about this problem and that I am not alone. Her and I had a big argument last week because God forbid, *I* went in HER ROOM, which is a total pigsty, to empty her garbage can. She saw that I had moved things around in her room, which consists of dirty clothes, clean clothes, and dirty underwear. I told her to clean the pigsty up. She went off like you can not believe telling me its HER ROOM and I am NOT ALLOWED in there. I said, this is MY HOUSE. Her response was,"This is DADS HOUSE". I told her last time I looked my name was on the house, too. She then began punching her thighs numerous times SCREAMING at me "I HATE WHEN YOU DO THIS!" I told her she should leave the house NOW because she was out of control. She was walking out the door and said, "I'm NOT coming back", and slammed the door. I then locked the outside door which she has no key to. She then came back after riding around the block. She was on the front porch ringing the doorbell because she could not get in. She was SCREAMING,"i need to get some of my things". I did not open the door. She then began to call from her cell phone and I did not answer the phone. She came BACK to the house trying to PRY the outside door open. I picked up the phone and told her she had one minute to get the HELL off my porch or I was going to call the police. She then yelled "F*** YOU" and took off in her car again. She began calling and calling and calling the house which I did not answer. After about 25 times, I picked up the phone and she said SHE would get the police there to get her things if I did not let her in to get them. I told her I would unlock the door and her and I were going to have it out. She came in and I read her off like you would not believe. She did pay room and board last week, and did a few chores. She then said,"Why do I have to do chores if I am paying to live here?" I said because you keep telling me you are 21, step up to bat and ACT like it; you should want to help me out with chores seeing as how I have herniated, bulging discs in my back and can not DO a lot of what I used to do. I also told her I CHOSE to have her, which means like it or not you are STUCK with ME as your MOTHER; I do not EXPECT respect, I DEMAND IT". She has not gone out in a few days now, just stays home and reads books...good sign? I also told her the next time she cusses at me, I will knock her teeth out of her mouth, regardless of her age.She has been behaving, but it's only been a week. If she slips up again, she is OUT THE DOOR. |
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