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July 29, 2005, 12:41 am PDT

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Hello, I am a 24 year old woman. I have been overweight all of my life, or at least as long as I can remember. I was the fat kid in school, and we moved a lot so I had to adjust to different places..with the same mean kids. Being made fun of as a child has stuck with me. I wish I knew how to forget or let it go, but I can't.  I feel like people are always staring at me, and whispering under their breath about how big I am. I have come to terms that I will never be married or have a life with this weight I carry.

I am 302 lbs. and only a mere 5ft tall. My weight is just now getting to the point where it is critical I lose weight. I have a bum knee, that slips in and out of place, I am always tired, and I cannot walk in the heat without complaining. I am 24 going on 50. I know if I continue to live like this, I may not be around too much longer.

My mother recently had the gastric bypass procedure done. She looks great, and has lost over 100 lbs. I prefer to try to continue to lose it on my own. One of my family members approached me today and told me that they feel I use this weight as a security blanket. They said I try to hide behind it, and the happy me is stuck inside.That brought tears to my eyes, because it is true.

Every time I feel an emotion I eat. I even eat when I am not hungry. I feel so disgusting when I look at myself in the mirror, I do not even recognize myself anymore.

I wish I could just wake up and be a healthy weight. I need to find a motivation, and I need to confide in someone who understands, and who can help me through this time.

I recently joined a weight loss program, and I plan to be 115 lbs by Christmas of 2006.

Lastly, for those who can understand where I am coming from, how can someone like me excercise without feeling like they are going to pass out, from a 3 minute walk?

I need all the support and advice you can give-

Gellissa

Hello Gellissa,

 

I do understand where you're coming from. I am overweight myself, and besides that, i'm physically disabled (wheelchair bound). So I know what it means to be looked at.

 

Being in a wheelchair did not make it easy for me to exercise. Most machines in a gym are not suited for guys like me. But finally I found a gym that has a machine which is a sort of home trainer but can be moved with the hands.

When i first stepped on it, I lasted only 5 minutes. After those 5 minutes I had the feeling that I was very close to death :-) But now, months later, I use it for 50 minutes (two sessions of 25 minutes each with about 15 minutes rest in between).

 

I suggest you consult your doctor so that you know what your starting point is (healthwise). Tell your doc. you want to exercise. With the medical outcomes, I'm sure a trainer can design a exercise plan that works for you.

Take baby steps, like I did. I'm sure you can reach your goals. Maybe we can be buddys on this. I'm 188 pounds, and have to lose about 45.

Here in the Netherlands, i'm a certified stresscounsellor. Maybe I can help you with the mental issues.

 

Jo

 
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July 31, 2005, 5:17 pm PDT

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Quote From: bo0mkat

Hello, I am a 24 year old woman. I have been overweight all of my life, or at least as long as I can remember. I was the fat kid in school, and we moved a lot so I had to adjust to different places..with the same mean kids. Being made fun of as a child has stuck with me. I wish I knew how to forget or let it go, but I can't.  I feel like people are always staring at me, and whispering under their breath about how big I am. I have come to terms that I will never be married or have a life with this weight I carry.

I am 302 lbs. and only a mere 5ft tall. My weight is just now getting to the point where it is critical I lose weight. I have a bum knee, that slips in and out of place, I am always tired, and I cannot walk in the heat without complaining. I am 24 going on 50. I know if I continue to live like this, I may not be around too much longer.

My mother recently had the gastric bypass procedure done. She looks great, and has lost over 100 lbs. I prefer to try to continue to lose it on my own. One of my family members approached me today and told me that they feel I use this weight as a security blanket. They said I try to hide behind it, and the happy me is stuck inside.That brought tears to my eyes, because it is true.

Every time I feel an emotion I eat. I even eat when I am not hungry. I feel so disgusting when I look at myself in the mirror, I do not even recognize myself anymore.

I wish I could just wake up and be a healthy weight. I need to find a motivation, and I need to confide in someone who understands, and who can help me through this time.

I recently joined a weight loss program, and I plan to be 115 lbs by Christmas of 2006.

Lastly, for those who can understand where I am coming from, how can someone like me excercise without feeling like they are going to pass out, from a 3 minute walk?

I need all the support and advice you can give-

Gellissa

 Please come to the "200 pounds to lose" message board right here on Dr. Phil's website. We have many people with more to lose than you have and they are all losing it!! When we have that much to lose, we have unique challenges. As you have estimated, it will take you over a year to get healthy and get your weight down. This is more than just weight loss--it's getting healthy psychologically too and developing a whole new lifestyle. Let us help you along that journey. There are some who were totally bedridden to start with and are now ambulatory again. Some (like me) are unable to exercise by walking, but we have other forms of exercise we can do. Yes, I'd pass out even after a 3-min. walk, but I can do arm swirls, I can dance for 1 or 2 minutes several times a day, and there's more. But you really owe it to yourself to come and join the most supportive message board ever! 

I hope to see you there soon.

Cherie

 


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