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January 15, 2008, 8:23 pm PST
 Quote From: kimber1869 I am so sick of drama from my ex! I had to call the cops on him yesterday...... He made allegations that my bf of 5 months hit my 2 yr old. He says she hits herself sometimes and when he asks who hits her like that, she says (my bf's name). Now, a little background info on this whole situation.... My ex and I have been split since April when he was cheating on me a yr ago. It only took me meeting someone new 3 months after I left him to "see the light" and want me back....but I'm not willing to go through that again, no trust at all....of course my ex wants to beat the snot out of my bf because my ex feels my bf "ruined our family" and if my bf wasn't in the pic I'd go back with cheater and liar ex. I told him that would never happen.....can't do it for the kids and wouldn't do it for any other reason, so it would never happen, new bf has nOTHING to do w/ it. But of course ex needs to blame someone so my bf is blamed. Recently my ex has been civil at drop off/pick up of our 2 yr old. We have our own agreement on visitation and never went to court over it. But now things are getting really mesy and I called legal services to file for custody of my daughter.....just to get it in writing because I'm so afraid my ex will not bring her back to me tomorrow for my weekend because my ex INSISTS my bf hit my daughter. I KNOW HE DID NOT and would never...... he is a very good dad to his own 1 yr old and very good to me. I watch how he plays with my daughter and she loves my bf. She doesn't stop asking for him or his son when they are not at our house and she is not afraid of my bf at all when he is with us. But my ex is a cop and says he interviews kids all the time and knows my baby is being hit, or was hit, by my bf......all I hear is "she is consistant with her story.....I do this all the time.....I was trained to do this...." crap. He also tells me to "step up and be a mom" beacuse I insist my bf is innocent. My ex wants to talk to my bf to see if hes telling the truth, but I don't think my bf should be involved.....I think this is just a way for ex to get bf in front of him and badger him about "ruining his family", but now since I called the cops on my ex standing outside my house yesterday yelling for my bf to come outside and "talk".....my ex went to child protective services to file a report against my bf! This is crap and they will find that out, but why is my ex being such a dick?! Hes the one who screwed up in the first place, and he's been seeing other ppl since we've split, but still "wants his family back"...... I am so stressed I don't feel like I'm even really here......I feel numb and I am SO SCARED I won't see my baby til something goes through court, and that could be a month.....if you know what I mean! I miss her to death after a day.....I couldn't handle a month! help! Any comments, suggestions or advise? Please be honest....I appreciate that......thanks! I am a monitor for my great nieces visitations with her mom. Her ex has a girlfriend who miss treats this child, she lets her son bite my niece, and makes her call her momma. My opinion is boyfriends and girlfriends who choose to PLAY HOUSE have no rights or business regarding their partners children who have 2 parents who are co-parenting If you know for a fact that your BF did not hit your child than it should be no problem when you visit your child to have your BF go away for that time that you have with your child, just one on one time. you are lucky the visits are not monitored and you have the pleasure of having your child with YOU over night not just 3 hours 2 days a week. My niece lives in the same house with this person she tells us she is being hit, and bit. I have pictures to take to court next month to prove this. PUT your child first.....forget the BF if it is creating problems back away and focus on your son. |
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March 27, 2008, 9:40 am PDT
Quote From: kimber1869 I am so sick of drama from my ex! I had to call the cops on him yesterday...... He made allegations that my bf of 5 months hit my 2 yr old. He says she hits herself sometimes and when he asks who hits her like that, she says (my bf's name). Now, a little background info on this whole situation.... My ex and I have been split since April when he was cheating on me a yr ago. It only took me meeting someone new 3 months after I left him to "see the light" and want me back....but I'm not willing to go through that again, no trust at all....of course my ex wants to beat the snot out of my bf because my ex feels my bf "ruined our family" and if my bf wasn't in the pic I'd go back with cheater and liar ex. I told him that would never happen.....can't do it for the kids and wouldn't do it for any other reason, so it would never happen, new bf has nOTHING to do w/ it. But of course ex needs to blame someone so my bf is blamed. Recently my ex has been civil at drop off/pick up of our 2 yr old. We have our own agreement on visitation and never went to court over it. But now things are getting really mesy and I called legal services to file for custody of my daughter.....just to get it in writing because I'm so afraid my ex will not bring her back to me tomorrow for my weekend because my ex INSISTS my bf hit my daughter. I KNOW HE DID NOT and would never...... he is a very good dad to his own 1 yr old and very good to me. I watch how he plays with my daughter and she loves my bf. She doesn't stop asking for him or his son when they are not at our house and she is not afraid of my bf at all when he is with us. But my ex is a cop and says he interviews kids all the time and knows my baby is being hit, or was hit, by my bf......all I hear is "she is consistant with her story.....I do this all the time.....I was trained to do this...." crap. He also tells me to "step up and be a mom" beacuse I insist my bf is innocent. My ex wants to talk to my bf to see if hes telling the truth, but I don't think my bf should be involved.....I think this is just a way for ex to get bf in front of him and badger him about "ruining his family", but now since I called the cops on my ex standing outside my house yesterday yelling for my bf to come outside and "talk".....my ex went to child protective services to file a report against my bf! This is crap and they will find that out, but why is my ex being such a dick?! Hes the one who screwed up in the first place, and he's been seeing other ppl since we've split, but still "wants his family back"...... I am so stressed I don't feel like I'm even really here......I feel numb and I am SO SCARED I won't see my baby til something goes through court, and that could be a month.....if you know what I mean! I miss her to death after a day.....I couldn't handle a month! help! Any comments, suggestions or advise? Please be honest....I appreciate that......thanks! What if you're wrong and your bf is hitting this baby? Is a 5 month relationship, or any relationship for that matter, worth losing your child over or putting your child in danger? I wouldn't take the chance. I would suck the 5 months up, put a period at the end of that chapter and move on. You have the choice, your child doesn't. |
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