Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Quote From: midlothiantx

Dear Dr Phil:  I have watched your episode of Parent Trap several times now and i'm still confused.  Correct me if i'm wrong, but did your "legal" guest Gloria Allred not say that it is the law to notify the courts or whoever within 2 years when you find out a child is not yours?  Did Enrique not notify people immediately when he found out?  I felt like there should of been a little more sympathy for the father Enrique.  My gosh, here is a man who did go 10 years thinking this precious little girl was his child only to find out she wasn't. Yes, he handled how he told her wrongly, but my gosh he had just found out that his wife (who by the way in my opinion was very arrogant, unsympathic and all whole lot more - which i'll get to in a minute) had an affair resulting in the birth of a child that he just found out was not his.  Then this child has turned on him because of his behavior, let HER MOTHER'S BEHAVIOR, ACTIONS, REASONING ETC., IN MY OPINION IS THE ONLY ONE WHO SHOULD HAVE BEEN ON TRIAL HERE.  NOT HIS....This woman, cheated, lied, manipulated, was dishonest, mentally abusive - she was the one who started all of this and yet she still has a realtionship with her daughter.  The daughter said nothing about her mother.  I view what she did as mental/emotional abuse - her mother caused all of this, she let the father think it was his child, she let the CHILD think it was her father - geez I do feel sorry for this young girl, but I am not convinced being with this mother is the best thing for the girl. I see the future now, this child begins to "act out" and it will always be the father's fault for here on out for whatever wrong happens to this girl because he handled "telling the truth" wrongly instead of lying, cheating, manipulating, and all that the mother has done.  That mother should have to pay any money back, call the real sperm donor and inform him of the existence of a child through their adulterous affair, apologize to the child for the diaster in her life that she has caused, and allow Enrique to have vistation with the child without her interference. And, if Enrique would like to treat this young girl with anyhing financially out of the goodness of HIS HEART, the exchange of funds should be between Enrique and the girl and THAT MOTHER SHOULD NOT BE ABLE TO GET HER HANDS ON A DIME OF HE MONEY.