Quote From: angelarenee74I dont know what to do and I need help. I have a brother who has one daughter of his own..and 2 stepdaughters. We have a cousin who is male, 23 years old. I have always had a funny feeling around him, for years. I think he is getting ready to violate my nieces and no one will listen to me. He started with the oldest girl. Giving her really expensive presents, taking her to the zoo..stuff like that. Then she got older. And the middle sister became his attention getter. Same thing..he is still paying alot of attention to her right now, the little one, my actual niece...is starting to get things from him too. He volunteers to babysit for them, always around them. He has actually moved everytime they do to the city where they are. I have asked the girls over and over if he has done anything to them..and they all say no. I am very close to these children. I have told my brother and his girlfriend that I dont like what he does and I dont trust him. But they say I am a drama queen and need to stop dreaming up things. I know in my heart this man is evil. I did some research today on the internet about pedophiles. I learned about the grooming process. Buying them things, (he does), always plays with them, kids games(he does), taking them to the zoo, to get ice cream, (he does), offers to babysit all the time. Everything...all the signs..they are there. I need to know how to address this with the parents. I have talked to them before and they wont listen. And now, the girls told me he is getting ready to move in with them. I have to stop something from happening. How do I do it. I have confronted him myself...on my own..and he told me I was crazy. This man is very evil, sneaky, and vendictive(spelled wrong)...he always brags about how he can kill someone with his thumb, has guns ..things like that. I know if I said something to the police, he would hurt my children. I need help ....please...I know I am not blowing things out of content. I dont think he has done anything yet...but he is getting ready too.....on a list of ten things to look for....he had done 9 of them...
Please, someone tell me what to do......
Thank you and God Bless,
Angela
Well I don't really know what you should do.
Maybe keep a close eye on the children, if anything happens it will at least not drag on. He is innocent until proven guilty so no law enforcement agency can do anything. As for your brother and his girlfriend: If they don't want to listen then you can't do anything either. You could risk loosing contact with the children which would mean you can't protect them at all. Maybe you could let him read about pedophiles (acreddited source like a book from a psychologist) so he will see that pedophiles often are people you know well (and trust) and that kidnappings like Dutroux in belgium in the 90's are pretty rare.
but I suggest you repost in in this board http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/topic/175/ it has more posts per month on average and is watched by more people who might give better advice.
