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February 15, 2006, 1:44 pm PST
go go go
Quote From: amyjo80192Hi, My 2 children and I have been living with my boyfriend and his two children for 6 years. I could go on and on but I will get straight to the point. He, my boyfriend, is a jealous control freak. He has folllowed me to and from work. Even went so far as to quit his job to follow me around because he thought that I was cheating. A job of 14 years, to which he was rehired. I have went so far as to pack my things only to be guilted into staying. I cannot seem to get out without feeling bad. I am afraid of hurting my or his children in the process. I know that I should get out, but how do I get past the guilt??? i believe you need to choose to leave. you might feel guilty, you don't need to, but it's okay that will pass. if he refuses to get help for his "way obsessive" behaviors your life is going to be hell. it will hurt for awhile but hurting for awhile is better that hurting for the rest of your life. i'm sure his children will feel hurt but that is not your responsibility. he should be more concerned about the affect HE is having on his children. he is setting a very unhealthy example by his behavior, unfortunately you are setting a bad example to HIS children and YOURS by staying. please get you and your children out of there. your children do not need to be exposed to his unhealthy ways. don't worry hon, your life will go on and the pain and guilt will pass....if you leave. you might want to read the book "co-dependency no more" i believe it might be helpful. do you have a good friend who can hold you accountable? if you do use him/her. choose a date, put it in your mental calender and stick to your guns, you and your children will be better off. best of luck to you.
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