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January 8, 2008, 8:29 pm PST
01/08 Cyber Bullies
Quote From: ericka91 This is just the way some people are. I think it makes them feel good about themselves by making others feel bad or try to. They must not like themselves-I feel that if they didthey wouldn't want to hurt others. But, on the other hand, we don't need to take what every one else thinks and says about us to heart. We should know ourselves and be confident in who we are. This way when someone does try to tell us that we're fat, ugly, stupid, dumb, etc. - it won't phase us at all because we know who we are and GOD didn't make any one of us like this. Everyone is beautiful, but their ways may not be. Some people just get off on making others feel inferior to them. That's the only control they may have-because they can't control themselves. Just remember, GOD made us all, but we choose to be the way we are... Children or not, words hurt. We were always taught "sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will never hurt us". As many times as that was recited to me in school as a response to sharing my pain with adults, it never helped. In fact, it made me wonder what was wrong with me because the verbal bullying DID hurt and i would have easily chosen the sticks and stones (though, those weren't eliminated, either).
In the past, the only difference between childrens' defamation and adults' was that children would do it to your face...adults would do it behind your back. The internet evens the platform...and either way, it hurts. The internet removes any risk the bully may have had on the playground: The teacher isn't there, the parents don't know about it, the victim can't point him out, and the bully can pretend the victim is a faceless cartoon character without feelings, thus removing what little guilt he may have felt in person when he looked into the crying eyes. He doesn't see the result of his actions.
Telling others "we don't need to take what every one else thinks and says about us to
heart... when someone does try to tell us that we're fat, ugly, stupid,
dumb, etc." doesn't lessen the pain. Eating disorders are spun from painful words. School shootings have been spawned from verbal pain.
It doesn't matter why they do it, how they do it, where, when or who does it...it hurts EVERY VICTIM. This is why the Bible does have so many references to hurtful words. God knows how much it hurts others. The tongue is sharper than a double-edged sword.
Encouraging as your post may be...and it is...telling us that we shouldn't hurt from gossip and slander is like telling a crash victim that his broken leg shouldn't hurt because the person who hit him didn't mean it...was mad at the world...or whatever excuse that is made for the driver who hit him.
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