Quote From: becciebeth2Before anyone considres "quitting" a maariage, I think they need to look at some major issues. Were they really, truely, giving this marriage their all? Where has all this hatered been festering? There is always a deep root to these issues. I believe they need to find that root first, before making such a radical decision, that is going to effect more people than they think. No one can truely be happy in life until they realize that life comes with emotional pain and anxiety. It all stems from the stories we've told ourselves from the moment of birth. They work for awhile, but there comes a time when you have to put your big girl (boy) pants on and find the real answers to these issues. When you take a vow in marriage, I don't feel either party should "quit" until they have investigated their complete inner being. Looking forward to Wednesday.
Were they really, truly giving this marriage their all? That's a rheotorical question. You don't want to hear the answer. I believe that a marriage is a relationship, and when one party is giving their all--it still isn't enoug to make a better relationship. It too easily descends into "filling in the blanks."
Finding the deep roots of the problem will only postpone the inevitable.
I stayed in a bad marriage far longer than I should have. I tried to make it work. And, I tried. And, I tried. I had six excellent reasons to beome a divorcee. I stayed because I would try to do what was right--even when I knew it was hopeless.
