Replies to '03/28 When to Call it Quits'

I can relate all to well to this scenerio.  My "mate" and I have been together for almost 16 years.  In November of 2006, without notice of ANY kind, I was served at work, with papers that he wanted custody of our then 12 year old son and he had sold my vehicle which was in his name.  With the help of some of his co-workers, who trade frequently at the dealership, he was able to trade my car without taking it in to be appraised for proper value.  The deal was complete and I was told that he needed to take my car in to have work done on it for a "recall."  The police got involved and I was advised to contact the DA's office for a restraining order, that was signed and he had to get out of the house.  This escalated everything.  He went to live with his oldest daughter, while my son and I tried to regroup and figure out where we would go.  I found out, after he left, that he had refinanced the house AGAIN.  Of course, EVERYTHING of value was in his name, thus giving him complete control over it.  Lawyers were hired and the next several weeks were filled with peace and quiet as well as anxiety and fear.  He did everything he could to prove to me that he would "win" this battle.

In December of 2006, for unknown reasons, he decided that this was not what he wanted.  He wanted me back.  He wanted to move back in and no was not an option!  He played it nice, put on a good show for everyone.  I ask him not to move back until we had some counselling and I had time to give it major consideration.  He said that he would give me space and time, but then he started showing up at my job and just hanging out for hours at a time.  In one months time, I got four dozens flowers, and various other arrangements as well.  He moved back into the house against my wishes.  

The very month that he moved back in, my son started having panic attacks and major anxiety, to the point that he had to be taken out of school for the remainder of the year.  I lost my job and we have lived in what I feel like is HELL ON EARTH for the past year.  I am at a breaking point.  I constantly have to try to keep my sanity to keep from doing something drastic, and I don't even know what it would be... I just feel like I am on the edge of breaking.  To this day, I have to attend school with my son EVERY day to get him to stay there.  It has been like this for the past twelve long months.  He is on meds for the anxiety and his father says that it's my problem because I created it.  He won't even pay for him to see his counselor anymore because he doesn't like her.  She suggested that he may have issues and that's about the time he stopped paying for the therapy that my son desperately needs.

We exist under the same roof.  We hardly breathe a word to each other.  If we do speak, it is usually bitter and hateful.  It's been this way for so long...  Every time that I try to leave something happens and I am unable to break away.  I am losing my mind, my son is losing his childhood.   If anyone has hope for me, please share it, I need something to hold onto......