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January 6, 2008, 10:21 am PST

01/09 When to Call it Quits

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Yes I want to speak out, this really upsets me.  I have been writing and emailing for over 5 years now for help from Dr. Phil with my marriage etc.  And I get this email with this weeks up dates and my story is just as bad as this couples.  Only I've been trying to get help from Dr Phil for a long time how long did it take this couple to get your attention?  What do I have to do to get help too?  I am pasting my letter again and the world can read it and then hopefully someone at the Dr. Phil show will finally notice me.  I've been married 15 1/2 years this month.  My husband was arrested 5 years ago this month for domestic violence and my Dad was dying at the time.  What is it that I am doing wrong that no one wants to help us.  We can't pay our bills.  I just had my 45th and 46th surgeries on Sept 20th, 2007 and I can't afford to lose my SS Disability.    If you ask me to be honest this type of marriage and life isn't worth it.  Move on and get out but it's not that easy and that's why this couple is getting your help and why I've been trying to get help for so long now.  Maybe this posting will get your attention! Finally.  I pray daily to hear from you.  This page will not allow me to paste my letter on here, Dr. Phil and staff email me at sharwinton6364@aol.com and please help us like you are this couple PLEASE!!!!!  Thanks I'll just keep praying.  Shari

 

 

 

Hi sweetie, I bet you they get 1000's of letters like your a week and in their area.. of course i do not know for sure and I am guessing. I do not think they are disrespecting you at all though*

 

1.I would suggest that you call a woman's shelter.

2.meet with someone at your local department of Social services and apply for low income housing

3.see a social worker or have one assigned to you ASAP or an Ombudsman; you need someone to be your advocate

4. the state can help you get an attorney

5. Do NOT tell your husband what you are doing as they get antsy and no one wants you to get harmed at all!

6. you should be covered for :

food stamps

Medicaid

shelter

and low cost phone service

low cost electric payment with-in the area you live [ sometimes ]

Have an advocate help you with these things

 

Food banks will help you and 

you can always go to your local church you attend and ask for help usually

get counseling from your local community health center. They go by your income.. YOURS. You are on

disability and you need to get away . No man has a right to ever hit you, slap you. GET AWAY!

 
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January 11, 2008, 4:10 am PST

01/09 When to Call it Quits

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Yes I want to speak out, this really upsets me.  I have been writing and emailing for over 5 years now for help from Dr. Phil with my marriage etc.  And I get this email with this weeks up dates and my story is just as bad as this couples.  Only I've been trying to get help from Dr Phil for a long time how long did it take this couple to get your attention?  What do I have to do to get help too?  I am pasting my letter again and the world can read it and then hopefully someone at the Dr. Phil show will finally notice me.  I've been married 15 1/2 years this month.  My husband was arrested 5 years ago this month for domestic violence and my Dad was dying at the time.  What is it that I am doing wrong that no one wants to help us.  We can't pay our bills.  I just had my 45th and 46th surgeries on Sept 20th, 2007 and I can't afford to lose my SS Disability.    If you ask me to be honest this type of marriage and life isn't worth it.  Move on and get out but it's not that easy and that's why this couple is getting your help and why I've been trying to get help for so long now.  Maybe this posting will get your attention! Finally.  I pray daily to hear from you.  This page will not allow me to paste my letter on here, Dr. Phil and staff email me at sharwinton6364@aol.com and please help us like you are this couple PLEASE!!!!!  Thanks I'll just keep praying.  Shari

 

 

 

I am sorry about your situation.  But you have to realize that I, too, like so many others have written to Dr. Phil for his help on other issues.  Who wouldn't want Dr. Phil's expertise and if we are lucky we get Robin's life experiences to help us as well.  I have to be honest with you.  Your letter sounds more like a cry for help for money from the Dr. Phil show then it does a cry for "HELP".  About 2 years ago I wrote frantic for help because my daughter was beaten by her dad.  After six months social services allowed them to go to his house again.  I was scared to death for my kids and was writing anyone from Dr. Phil to the president of the US.  Yes, I even wrote President Bush!  Guess what?  I didn't hear from anyone, I got my daughter, my other kids, and myself, the help we needed.  Their dad worked with the case worker, and eventually with me.  It has taken two years but instead of sitting and waiting for the Dr. Phil show to call, I made the changes that were necessary to protect and ensure the happiness of my children.  And it worked.  Would I have liked to have Dr. Phil's help?  Would it have been an easier gap to bridge with my ex, my kids, the counseling, his parenting, etc.....  Absolutely.  But I have to question in your situation why you are in the same, if not worse, situation 5 years later and you are waiting for "Dr. Phil" to come and rescue you.  I do not mean this letter as hateful in any way.  I'm hoping that it will somehow motivate you to take a look at your life.  See where you want to go and where you need to go.  Then put a plan into action and just do it.  There are women's shelters, domestic violence shelters and if you do not have a ride, a suggestion is to call a church, any church, explain your situation and more than likely they will send someone to take you to a shelter.  Just take your kids if you have any.  I will pray for you Shari but not the prayer you want which is for Dr. Phil to sweep in and rescue you, though that is a nice wish.  I will pray for you to get strong and realize you have the skills and drive to change your life for the better and you will start today.  Best of luck to you
 
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March 28, 2008, 4:25 pm PDT

03/28 When to Call it Quits

Quote From: sharwinton

Yes I want to speak out, this really upsets me.  I have been writing and emailing for over 5 years now for help from Dr. Phil with my marriage etc.  And I get this email with this weeks up dates and my story is just as bad as this couples.  Only I've been trying to get help from Dr Phil for a long time how long did it take this couple to get your attention?  What do I have to do to get help too?  I am pasting my letter again and the world can read it and then hopefully someone at the Dr. Phil show will finally notice me.  I've been married 15 1/2 years this month.  My husband was arrested 5 years ago this month for domestic violence and my Dad was dying at the time.  What is it that I am doing wrong that no one wants to help us.  We can't pay our bills.  I just had my 45th and 46th surgeries on Sept 20th, 2007 and I can't afford to lose my SS Disability.    If you ask me to be honest this type of marriage and life isn't worth it.  Move on and get out but it's not that easy and that's why this couple is getting your help and why I've been trying to get help for so long now.  Maybe this posting will get your attention! Finally.  I pray daily to hear from you.  This page will not allow me to paste my letter on here, Dr. Phil and staff email me at sharwinton6364@aol.com and please help us like you are this couple PLEASE!!!!!  Thanks I'll just keep praying.  Shari

 

 

 

TO ALL PEOPLE AT THE DR PHIL SHOW:

 

I AM REPOSTING THE MESSAGE FROM SHARI IN HOPES THAT YOU WILL HEAR HER INDIVIDUAL CRY!

 

PLEASE HELP HER FIND SOMEONE TO INTERVENE SOON!

 

~yahssis

 
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March 28, 2008, 7:10 pm PDT

03/28 When to Call it Quits

Quote From: sharwinton

Yes I want to speak out, this really upsets me.  I have been writing and emailing for over 5 years now for help from Dr. Phil with my marriage etc.  And I get this email with this weeks up dates and my story is just as bad as this couples.  Only I've been trying to get help from Dr Phil for a long time how long did it take this couple to get your attention?  What do I have to do to get help too?  I am pasting my letter again and the world can read it and then hopefully someone at the Dr. Phil show will finally notice me.  I've been married 15 1/2 years this month.  My husband was arrested 5 years ago this month for domestic violence and my Dad was dying at the time.  What is it that I am doing wrong that no one wants to help us.  We can't pay our bills.  I just had my 45th and 46th surgeries on Sept 20th, 2007 and I can't afford to lose my SS Disability.    If you ask me to be honest this type of marriage and life isn't worth it.  Move on and get out but it's not that easy and that's why this couple is getting your help and why I've been trying to get help for so long now.  Maybe this posting will get your attention! Finally.  I pray daily to hear from you.  This page will not allow me to paste my letter on here, Dr. Phil and staff email me at sharwinton6364@aol.com and please help us like you are this couple PLEASE!!!!!  Thanks I'll just keep praying.  Shari

 

 

 

Shari, did you try to click on the "CONTACT DR. PHIL" button at the top of the web page?That's a different, more direct way to contact him, rather than these message boards.

 

Good luck!

 


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