Quote From: psystudent1966I think these people that go out and buy alot of fancy things and show them off, alot of them end up in bankrupcy because they cannot pay for the things they have gotten. I was raised that if you want something you save and then buy it when you have the money for it, dont go in debt for something you will never be able to pay for.
I also have a family member, thru marriage that does these things she actually married for money not love and she will tell everyone that. To me that is just petty and wrong.
I was even made fun of by my husbands sister about the size of my engagement ring, it was not big it was a small ring and exactly what i wanted. she thought it should be a huge rock or something, Well she has been married 3 times all with big rings and now she is alone, we have been married for 20 years and I still do not want a rock, love is more important to me than possessions.
People need to live within their means, not go in debt to impress anyone, I definetly dont do anything to impress anyone, I do things that I need to do and want to do.
Your "rock" is your rock-solid 20 year marriage! Mine too has been a long and happy marriage. Which is worth far more than your sister-in-law's collection of engagement rings from 3 failed marriages. Could her excessive materialism be the cause? I wouldn't be surprised at all.
You say you don't do anything to impress anyone. Well you don't need to! Being in a long and happy love-filled marriage is plenty impressive all on its own! Wishing you continued happiness!! J B
