Replies to '01/07 Don't Be That Girl'

I work in an environment that is predominantly male. They are all pilots which I think is a very similar personality type to doctors. Those types of professions attract and in many ways create people who are somewhat narcissistic and overly ego driven. In order to survive in those careers those traits are necessary. I have found military, law enforcement and firefighters also have these traits. From watching men of this type, and men in general, I noticed two things; one they compartmentalize everything, two they live by the motto fake it till you make it i.e. usually they dont know as much as claim and half  the time they are in complete denial about this. Women do the exact opposite.  

I think Dr. Storke was well intentioned but I think he approached it like someone true to his profession and gender would, and I dont think it is really helpful for women. Women DO NOT COMPARTMENTALIZE unless they learned it some where it doesnt come naturally. So a book full of labels is interpreted by women as this is why you suck and why your not worth anything, why men dont like you and why you need to bend over backwards and change who you are because who you are isnt good enough ect we paint those things over every part of who we are. I have had to counsel so many male flight instructors who teach women pilots because men dont seem to get that women do this, its why we call you insensitive. One guy had his female student write down on paper everything she did wrong on the flight so that she could go home and study those things. He totally thought he was being helpful, but really he can completely destroyed her self esteem. When I finally got her it took me months to undo all of the damage caused by that one event. She didnt believe me when I explained to her that she was just as good as all of her peers, because she had the sheet of paper to prove she wasnt.  

One another note, the last thing the girl who lost all the weight needed was to be asked out on a date.  She vanished in her marriage. That guy only liked her because she was pretty, she was still trying to learn who she was. She cant do that if some Mr. Awesome asks her out, she will disappear again. In my opinion that was just mean and irresponsible. She deserved a chance to get better and that guy will just keep her sick.