Replies to '07/03 Get Rich Quick Disasters'
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January 13, 2008, 11:07 am PST
 Quote From: twoschues2000 My boyfriend was totally this way. For 2 1/2 years I put up with hearing about this greand idea or this great scheme...we only have to do this, we only need this, if we only use this for that...on and on it went. Yes he worked - he had an income but was constantly plotting and planning his next BIG money making scheme... I noticed it when we met and I thought it was cute - he was ambitious - as things went on I though well maybe he just has bad luck as things he would try failed for one reason or another. I was also taking the toll as together as a couple - these things consumed all his free time and was starting to consume our finances as well - and it started out small then grew into more things - and more larger things...(INvestments) ok well he would get mad as I got skeptical or told him it wouldn't work let it go...and things turned into fights/arguements...Money bcame the center of everything and the lack or loss of it. He would tell me it would work we'd have so much it was worth it to do...He'd make it right and pay it back to me... 2 1/2 years I had to leave him. I was 35,000 in debt (thankfully that was all) and filed for bankruptcy. I had to be strong and stop it - Things over and over were repeating and not getting better. I left him and got myself on track. I'm now rebuilding my credit, down sized many things to get caught up, paid off all back bills and am even. I have no real credit card debt I can't handle and am finishing graduate school as a single mom with 2 boys under 12 at home. I knew and have known for years if it sounds too good to be true it is...There is NO SUCH thing as get rich quick. They have ploys and marketing techniques that pray on people';s weaknesses hopes dreams and desires. They know people are in crisis - in debt to their eyeballs and beyond and yet continue to pray on them. Desperate people are easy marks. Be strong, work hard, make and have a plan is my best advice. if that person is you STOP IT...if that person is married to you you need to have a serious fierce conversation with them about it and if you can't take it - leave it...My life has totally turned around - totally for the better...I'm a teacher I tutor on the side when I can - I budget, plan etc. and make things work. I have also found GOD and attend church regularly this has also helped make things easier and changed my views on many negative things Am I rich and blessed - in many different ways than with money YES :) I'm glad that you saw the light. You were just as big a sucker as he was. This was your problem and your money that got lost. I am sure that you thought your $35,000 would turn into millions. So you need to say, that you were totally this way. You got schemed, even if he believed it, because you believed him.
Im glad that you have found God, but I hope that you are not putting diamonds on fingers and big cars in driveways for men claiming to do God's work. God needs that money to feed the poor and cure the ill, rather than feed egos. Some Churches ae schemers also, when they tell you that your giving will lead to riches, but take your giving to buy cars.
Message: God is not telling you to give that minister a Roll Royce as a token of his good work. However, God may be telling you to sell that Rolls Royce, to help feed some kid. |
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January 16, 2008, 2:56 pm PST
Quote From: twoschues2000 My boyfriend was totally this way. For 2 1/2 years I put up with hearing about this greand idea or this great scheme...we only have to do this, we only need this, if we only use this for that...on and on it went. Yes he worked - he had an income but was constantly plotting and planning his next BIG money making scheme... I noticed it when we met and I thought it was cute - he was ambitious - as things went on I though well maybe he just has bad luck as things he would try failed for one reason or another. I was also taking the toll as together as a couple - these things consumed all his free time and was starting to consume our finances as well - and it started out small then grew into more things - and more larger things...(INvestments) ok well he would get mad as I got skeptical or told him it wouldn't work let it go...and things turned into fights/arguements...Money bcame the center of everything and the lack or loss of it. He would tell me it would work we'd have so much it was worth it to do...He'd make it right and pay it back to me... 2 1/2 years I had to leave him. I was 35,000 in debt (thankfully that was all) and filed for bankruptcy. I had to be strong and stop it - Things over and over were repeating and not getting better. I left him and got myself on track. I'm now rebuilding my credit, down sized many things to get caught up, paid off all back bills and am even. I have no real credit card debt I can't handle and am finishing graduate school as a single mom with 2 boys under 12 at home. I knew and have known for years if it sounds too good to be true it is...There is NO SUCH thing as get rich quick. They have ploys and marketing techniques that pray on people';s weaknesses hopes dreams and desires. They know people are in crisis - in debt to their eyeballs and beyond and yet continue to pray on them. Desperate people are easy marks. Be strong, work hard, make and have a plan is my best advice. if that person is you STOP IT...if that person is married to you you need to have a serious fierce conversation with them about it and if you can't take it - leave it...My life has totally turned around - totally for the better...I'm a teacher I tutor on the side when I can - I budget, plan etc. and make things work. I have also found GOD and attend church regularly this has also helped make things easier and changed my views on many negative things Am I rich and blessed - in many different ways than with money YES :)
I myself have been with a man for almost 3 years. He is the nicest man I have ever known. He is so sweet, gentle, honest, and so caring of others, he would give you the shirt off his back! His problem is simple, he wants a rich, quick fix. He is a contractor, which here in Florida, the work is not available. After watching the Dr Phil show today, the first gentleman that was on, so reminds me of my boyfriend! He would refuse to get a job from 8-5, saying he wouldnt feel comfortable doing this, and I was talking about HomeDepot, or Lowes, where there are contacts there. When the construction business, went into an all out low, he just packed his things, and moved to Montana, leaving behind his mom and son and of course myself and the kids. He was there for 2 months, and then once again borrowed money and moved to Maryland, which he is now living with his best friend, which as of today, 5 weeks later, he has maybe had 2 jobs, and still hasnt pushed Lowes or Home depot. He would much rather take a wait and see attitude. Which unfortunatly has pretty much destroyed our relationship along with his heavy drinking because he has no work. This man I love is very talented, but does not seem to have the energy or the drive to go out there and push. I believe he wants people to come to him. He also spends alot of time on the internet looking for jobs, which again he is not pushing himself out there. Like the first man on the show today, we have both kind of dropped God from our lives, not totally, but have not asked him for help...until now. I pray every nite for him to intervene in Jims life, and to get rid of the depression and alcohol consumption, which is caused by him not having steady work.I also pray for Jim to seek God again. If he would just drop the rose colored glasses and see that you must go out and work hard, and also understand that your chances of winning the lottery are pretty much zilch, he would be such a catch. My only hope and dream is that he stops what I call mooching off of people (friends mostly, never me!)for money to move all the time and realize it is time to become a responsable adult. |
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