Quote From: moggyladyI also have a son problem, but he is only 13. He has ADHD and Oppositionally Definant and recently screened and accepted in the Special Education catagory for emotional disability in school. We are in the enrollment process for him to move to a residential home that will help him with his anger and self esteem issues. I am not afraid of him and he has not tried to hurt me, but he always lashes out on his younger brother who is 10. I have to protect my younger son both physically and emotionally and my oldest just needs help that we cannot give him. For me I am totally emotionally and physically fatigued with the whole stressful situation that we have had since he was 5 yrs old! It never gets any better and yes his father is still here in our home. I don't buy the line that it is "bad parenting" as my younger son does not have these emotional or mental issues. He has been a very sad and domineering son at least since 1st or 2nd grade and enjoys being bad, he says it is fun! In Kindergarten he was very domineering and his teacher foresaw him as being a leader and teacher later in life. Hopefully he will get the help he needs with this new program and will become someone with a respectful and structured future. Right now he is headed either to jail, someone will kill him for his actions, or he will end up seriously hurting or killing someone himself with his anger and opinions. He needs to learn how to balance things inside and to control his emotions and to learn how to channel his anger and frustrations better. Pray for him - Russell!
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Hopefully he will get the help he needs with this new program and will become someone with a respectful and structured future. Right now he is headed either to jail, someone will kill him for his actions, or he will end up seriously hurting or killing someone himself with his anger and opinions. He needs to learn how to balance things inside and to control his emotions and to learn how to channel his anger and frustrations better. Pray for him - Russell!
I have 14 year old twins that were on Montel in September. They are very much like your son. I am afraid of mine and they are verbally, physically and emotionally abusive to me. There is no father in the home and I believe that part of it is cause there is no consistent role model, but I also believe it is the lack of support that I have directly in the home, male or female. Your son is probably very smart and i appalude you for having the courage to place him. He needs to learn the tools to as you said to do those things, those things don't come naturally and it is difficult for some kids, they learn them much easier. I pray for all of you cause I live with it every day with two of them. I just get concerned when parents have no other choice but to send their children to facilities that when they get out they don't resent their parents for as they say "getting rid of them" although parents are doing it to help their child, but also to protect their family, that is why I said it takes alot of courage to do what you are doing not judging, just saying.
