Replies to '01/14 "At War with My Teen"'

I think I am a good Mom as well, but I have raised my voice to my kids periodically - usually when my son has pushed me to my limits.  I have done a lot of reading (and watching on Dr. Phil) about child rearing and I do my best to keep calm when dealing with my kids, BUT we are human and sometimes I raise my voice.  I also do my best to stop myself immediately as well.

 

I respect Robin - both as a wife and a mother.  However, I got the impression from her comments that if a parent raises his/her voice to their child that they aren't good parents.  Obviously, this was an emotional moment and I apologize if I misunderstood. However, I feel like I was reprimanded and now feel as if I was told I was a bad parent.  I think that I have enough guilt without trying to be perfect.  I do a much better job than the woman on the show and always try to improve, but I don't think I could always be as calm and perfect in response as Robin mentions. Kudos to her.  I don't think I could possibly compare to that.

You are on the same track that I am. There is something terribly wrong with that Mother. Her eyes never blink. They are filled with hatred toward her child. This child s rebelling for a good reason  He is being mistreated and minimilized. Where is the bio Father?  Step Father needs to bow out emotionally and let Mom deal with her hateful feelings. Bless Robin.

I noticed mom's demeanor too. I understand her frustration, but when her son started to break down, there was no softening, no empathy, no love. Just a stone wall. How could any parent that loves their son not be moved by his emotions? My parents were cold and unmoving also. We were 'disposable'  to them. Make any waves and you could be dropped like a rock. I see the same thing here and my heart goes out to him. By the same toke, he needs to just take a walk away from his parents when he gets angry. His behavior is unacceptable.