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I had a bad experience too ... one that probably is "a defining moment in my life".  I had met quite a few men at dating sites and dated and had a pretty good time after a divorce.  Actually, I had never dated so much in my entire life.  It was fun.  Then a man emailed me and he was different.  We talked on the phone and met.  We hit it off immediately.  I fell for him ... big time.  Moved in with him and lived with him for 4 years.  Thought he was the love of my life ... until I discovered that he had personal ads all over the Internet at alternative sites (sites for bisexuals, couples, etc.).  I found that he was hooking up with men, women and couples for casual quickie encounters whenever and wherever he could.  He had many of them, including a married transvestite.  I was pretty shocked to find that he seemed to have a preference for men.  I left after confronting him.  My life has not been the same since.  Can't get over the depression and isolation that I feel.  I don't trust anyone anymore and don't go out except to see my children.  I should be able to let this go and move on, but I haven't been able to.  It's pretty hard to believe that I could live with someone for 4 years and not have a clue that this kind of thing was going on, but it's true.  His meetings were quickies and he treated me well and we went out together every week and were intimate.  I just didn't have any signs that anything was going on.  I only found out because I am a computer expert and he asked me to fix his computer.  So, I hate to say don't do it or be a spoiled sport, but I really had a blast dating men that I met online until this happened.   Suzbuc