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June 3, 2008, 12:54 pm PDT
 Quote From: txs_wis OMG! I really feel for you. No, you are not a bad house wife. Kids, even if it is only one, can really take a lot out of you and even at 3 months after the birth, you are still recovering. Harmones are still changing, you body is still changing and baby demands a lot of your time. Baby care does take a huge chunk of time. If hubby wants a cleaner home, he can lay out his own clothes and get some of the shopping on his way home from work.
Some hubby's have their 'clean' area focus. For my hubby, its the table. As long as the table is cleared of clutter and after meal dishes, he is ok with it. I know I am not the worlds best house keeper and I definitely know I am not superMOM but I keep up with the laundry and I always make sure my family has a home cooked meal 6 days out of the week, the one day I don't cook it is take out or we eat out.
We have 4 kids and they're just now getting to where I am not taxed to my limits. I need my 'down' time and most often a nap still but as my kids have grown a bit more independent, I am getting more done in the house again.
gdh, Wisconsin You are doing the best you can and is what being a housewife is all about. We as housewives deal with so much. We tend to ask ourselves are we doing enough or contributing enough? Our days start early and end later then the spouse's sometimes. That is something to be proud about. It took me a couple of years to stop feeling guilty that I wasn't working.
I do all that for my husband too but, even he understands not everything can get done. I cook almost everything from (scratch saves money) and it does take a lot of time. The dishes never seem to end. It is kinda hard when you have your daily routines prevent you from getting into those projects you been meaning to do. Like cleaning that closet out, gardening or the one thing that I have been meaning to do forever, going through my kids dressers and closets for clothes that are to small.
My hubby's clean area focus is the garage. He hates when I clutter the top of the washer or whatever. This is his sanctuary to have a beer on Fridays after work. LOL
Like the message from gdh, Wisconsin (my husbands from there too!) I am not the worlds greatest housekeeper either but the house is constantly being picked up and kept decent. When My kids are grown up that will be my time to have the clean neat abode I have dreamed about.
I feel as long as you keep up with your routine, and the house is decent, laundry is taken care of and of course your kids/hubby are feed and happy then everything is alright and there will be a time and place for those extra projects or just time to yourself to actually have a hobby. It is true my kids as they get older I am able to get a little more and more done as they tend to occupy them selves more and more.
I have to say god bless you with more than 2 kids. I have a 3 and 4 year old and its hard, I can't imagine 4. It is a wonderful blessing to be parents.
Liz, Las Vegas |
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