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January 17, 2008, 1:02 pm PST
Gramma
Quote From: shorty53 My youngest son and his girlfriend put us through hell when the lived here. Treated our home like a hotel, expected 5 star accomodations, didnt lift a finger to help here or keep their area of the house decent. We finally threw them out, they went through evictions at other places, were taken to court, had to live in seedy "pay by the day" motels, i had police at my door several times a week looking for them because they owed money somewhere. My husband and I ended up with legal custody of their now 6 yr old son. We adore him, but i will never have my own life again. All the rest of my days will be taken up raising another child, by the time he is old enough to be on his own, we will be too old to enjoy anything. My son and the g/f now have a place of their own and each has a job, but have made no attempts to reclaim their child. They are totally enjoying themselves and the freedom they have with no responsibilities. I cant put into words the resentment I feel toward them when im running down the hall at nite to comfort a child with bad dreams, or standing in the freezing cold waiting for a school bus to arrive, washing loads of little jeans and shirts, doing homework, and all the other things my son should be doing. I would love to just be Gramma. I know this must be very difficult for you and your husband, but I urge you to focus on the positive things in your life.
When your grandchild is old enough to be on his own, you will still be able to enjoy life! This little boy needs you, and he is lucky enough to have you there to comfort him; I believe everything happens for a reason. This little one has been put in your hands, you are going to shape and mold him into a happy, healthy, productive citizen. This is a lot of responsibility and effort, but when you reap the rewards and feel the joy deep within your heart, you’ll know it was well worth it.
Yes, it is sad and sick that your son and his girlfriend won’t take responsibility. Someday, they will realize what a terrible mistake they’ve made; but for now, they are focused solely on themselves and their ‘needs.’ I wish you the very best in life and urge you to focus on the positives instead of dwelling on the negatives- best wishes!
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