Replies to '03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"'

This takes the phenomenon of "boomerang" offspring to a new level. There is NOTHING wrong with a parent helping a down-on-their-luck child get back on his/her feet (BTDT), or a significant other pulling the entire load of a relationship temporarily if the other is incapacitated. However, both of these cases go beyond anything resembling a limit. It becomes "enabling" the other(s) to live as though they are entitled to all the goodies "just because."

Memo to Mike and Brenda: Unless you two stick to your guns this time, and kick them to the curb in a month, they will still be hanging around when the baby is ready to start middle school. Guaranteed, they will try and manipulate you using the baby as the bait.

What's truly shocking is that Amanda sticks with this loser. Maybe SHE needs to get up the gonies to kick her husband to the curb and work on changing herself -- Mike & Brenda can help out with THAT for a defined period (say, 6-8 months), but Amanda needs to get her OWN act together, regardless of what her husband does. If she prefers him, then out she goes -- she can support him. Mike and Brenda can help by getting diapers, clothes, etc., for THE BABY, but no more free ride for the "adults."

Brianne, Greg should have been gone ages ago. You know it. Work on yourself for a while and forget about relationships.