Quote From: melly987I am outraged at what I saw on the show today. I don't normally watch TV during this time of day, but as I heard a woman say something like she had to quit her job to "take care" of her son because her husband doesn't have a job and he wasn't taking care of the baby....ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! If he isn't working then quitting your job is possibly the stupidest thing I have ever heard of!
I am very passionate about this topic because I found myself pregnant in January 2007 and we now have a beautiful 4 month old baby boy. My boyfriend and I got an apartment in April, he works as a plumber's apprentice and i as a waitress. We keep opposite schedules so we don't need to work out daycare. I can watch Tommy during the day while he is at work, and he watches him 4-5 nights a week while i wait tables. So, I would like to know why both of them don't work? I didn't think it was really an option these days to only have one parent working, but IF you can afford it then thats great... YOU TWO CANNOT AFFORD IT!
Tell these two to get up and BOTH get jobs....since when is it only the mans responsibility to earn a wage? Don't you want more for yourself and your child? Take some pride in yourself and get off your *** and if that means both of you flip burgers on opposite shifts then so be it.
People like you two make me sick....what are you going to say next, that life isn't fair. Welcome to adulthood, fun isn't it?
Melissa
age 27
working MOM with a 4 month old
Melissa, what a bright 27-yr-old you are. I wish I had your wisdom at such a young age!
Yes, life is unfair. It's what we make of it. And it usually has to do with the choices we make.
I didn't have my first child until age 31, after my 5th year of marriage. I had my second/last child at age 38. I have been able to stay home fulltime since his birth (he is now 7). But I taught school full-time with our first child becuase we had much debt. We were college-educated and were working our way up the career ladder, but we had made stupid choices w/ regard to money. Now that we've smartened up with money (and basically grown-up!), our lives have become much simplier and much better. I still teach, but just as a sub. I enjoy our children's activities and my volunteering to help others much more than I ever did working full-time. We have been married 18 years and we have the best marriage I could ever ask for!
I am confident your son (and any other children you have) have great role models in you and your boyfriend. I do hope that if you two truly love eachother, you will santify your marriage and make it a committment in God's eyes. Even if that is not important to you, there ARE benefits (under the law) that marriage provides. It is more of a safety net for women and children. I have worked with women and can tell you that marriage DOES offer legal protections to people should a romantic relationship end.
God bless you and good luck to you. Always put that beautiful child first and remember that he learns more from what you do than what you say. I do believe YOU will be a super parent, just from your brief posting.
