Replies to '03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"'

The 36 year old who is emotionally beaten up by his mother, needs to find a job out of the state and MOVE.   Step two, quit worrying about what she will say about you once you move and are gone. 

I've known him about 8 years.  He has been completely repressed, physically and emotionally abused, probably sexually as well.  She has him convinced that he has a criminal record and will go to jail if he leaves. A complete falsehood [I checked].  She does have him in trouble w/ the IRS by telling him [and his employer] that she would do his taxes, and then didn't do them. Every time he gets a little independent she slaps him back down.  He would need extensive counseling to be able to stand up to her even a little. She won't be happy until he is dead or in jail.  She like to play martyr.  She likes the attention of having a dependent son who most people think is mildly retarded - which I don't think he is - maybe a little ADD but his memory is too good and he learns too well to be retarded.  He's not allowed to use the phone.  He's not allowed outside without her. He's not allowed to have a driver's license or even an ID.  They have no heat in the house except for a couple space heaters.  I don't think they have a refrigerator.  I do know she doesn't cook anything.  The house isn't fit for human habitation it is so dirty.  As far as I'm concerned, she belongs in jail for the things she has done to him - but that would probably hurt him pretty badly.