Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

I totally agree with jaime1974 and rarediamondgem. they are telling you the truth. I couldn't have put it better myself. Our children are growing up to fast, but there's nothing we can do. My children keeps journals themselves and as tempted as I get I try not to read it. I'm not going to lie Yes I've read some things and found out things. But if they are not hurting themselves or others I don't mind what they write as long as they are not keeping it bundled up inside or getting hurt by it. But what I will do is somehow while talking about their friends of something I'll bring up a subject that they mentioned in the dairy ( not what they wrote) but just the subject and then we will discuss it. then eventually the come clean about what they wrote with out me drilling it out of them. Because they feel comfortable that I'm not going to fly of the handle and beat the hell out of them. i always tell my children that when they need to tell me something that they know I'm going to get upset, don't be afraid to tell me. Except that I'll get mad and let me get over the initial shock. Knowing that you warned me that I'll get mad will make me stop and think before getting out of control. So we can sit and discuss it and find out what we can do about it. my son is the only boy in a house with me, his grandmother and 3 sisters. can you imagine what's he's going through on a monthly basis' I respect him enough not to invade his privacy when it comes to his room. Because of all the hormones he puts up with from us women. But I make sure that he respects us and understands that it's not that we want to be that way it just happens and he needs to be patient with all of us. So I think I'm giving him the skills on how to be with  and treat women. That's all i'm worried about.What he writes or fantasizes is his business. as long his not hurting anyone.

Aloha,

brokeninside