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October 23, 2008, 1:29 am PDT
It sucks
Quote From: chocolate22I was tested in March of 2007 for all STDs just to be sure that everything was ok. My tests came back negative. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time in Feb 2007 even though it was for only a short period of time ( maybe 30 sec). He hadn't been tested since May 2006, and he told me his tests came back negative. In December of 2007 we both went to the clinic to get tested because I suggested that that is something that ll couples should do, and he agreed. A couple of weeks ago his test came back positive for clamydia and mine did too. I have never had sex with anyone besides him, so I know he gave it to me. He swears that he has never cheated and that he must have had it before he met me. As I understand it, you can have clamydia for years with no symptoms. Besides this big issue, he is a very good man, and he really wants to work it out. I am in love and he tells me he is in love with me and he is willing to do whatever to make it work. Should I take him back or let the relationship go? While I know it sucks having something like this happen, but you are right, he could have been carrying it with absolutely no symptoms. Another thing most people don't know about chlamydia is that a man can carry it and pass it around and not nessicarily been infected with it. But, you are kinda lucky thats all it was, that is cureable.
I have HSV2, genital herpes, and let me tell you, I would take getting chlamydia any day over dealing with something that can't be cured. Fortunately I don't get obs very often and I take daily meds to prevent them, so... and I didn't even find out I had it until after I was married with a child. Now, we will never actually know which of us brought it to the relationship because we both have it and people can have it also with out having obs for years. I cried like a 5 year old who got her toy taken away the day I found out. I was so disgussed and embarrased. I had no idea what to tell my husband... he didn't care to much... his response was that we are married for life so why does it matter... I guess I got lucky when he married me...haha... but its still not easy. if one of us has an ob we can't be intimate, or when I was having our 2nd child, I had to be on double meds and checked thoroughly before they would let me deliver... it can be a hassle but the key to dealing with it is having support... if you can find that, you have it made
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