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January 20, 2008, 2:41 pm PST
 Quote From: tinygoddess We have lost sight of why we even get married any longer. We marry because we love the person and want to share our life with them. You take a vow before God and your spouse to stay together until death do you part.
If you are bored in bed and sex can get boring after a few years, go to a counselor, get some new Ideas, buy a book for Gods sake. You don't invite other people into your bed. It is plan an simple cheating and cheating is lying. Couples who swing and invite a third party into their bed are asking for divorce down the road. What is the difference between swinging and going out and having an affair.
Renee here is a message to you. Let Brent go. If this is what he is asking of you than he has no respect for you or your marriage. He is thinking about himself. I am sure that he wants this third party to be another woman. I wonder if you wanted another man in the bed if would be so willing to put your marriage on the line for a good time .
I just do not understand the world today. We have lost sight of why we even get married any
longer. We marry because we love the person and want to share our
life with them. You take a vow before God and your spouse to stay
together until death do you part. We did get married because we loved one another. Through the years, that love has grown so deeply that a person who doesn't experience it wouldn't understand it. I will share the rest of my life with him. We did vow before God and my spouse to stay with them till death do us part. That part will never change. Ever. If you are bored in bed and sex can get boring after a few years, go to a counselor, get some new Ideas, buy a book for Gods sake. You don't invite other people into your bed. It is plan an simple cheating and cheating is lying. Couples who swing and invite a third party into their bed are asking for divorce down the road. What is the difference between swinging and going out and having an affair. This is where people get lost... We were never bored with our sex life. I don't think we've ever been bored with our sex life and we've been married a quarter of a century. It's not cheating. This is another part where people get a little lost. Cheating is a lie, but cheating is where you're sneaking behind the back of your spouse without their knowledge and having sex without their knowledge. The difference between swinging and going out and having an affair is that we both go as a couple. He knows everything I do and I know everything he does. This has brought a whole new realm of communication to our relationship. I know that there are a plethora of you out there that can't understand this. You don't want to understand. Your agenda is to bash those of us who live differently than you. We used to live like you... Glad we don't anymore. |
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January 26, 2008, 10:41 am PST
Quote From: tinygoddess We have lost sight of why we even get married any longer. We marry because we love the person and want to share our life with them. You take a vow before God and your spouse to stay together until death do you part.
If you are bored in bed and sex can get boring after a few years, go to a counselor, get some new Ideas, buy a book for Gods sake. You don't invite other people into your bed. It is plan an simple cheating and cheating is lying. Couples who swing and invite a third party into their bed are asking for divorce down the road. What is the difference between swinging and going out and having an affair.
Renee here is a message to you. Let Brent go. If this is what he is asking of you than he has no respect for you or your marriage. He is thinking about himself. I am sure that he wants this third party to be another woman. I wonder if you wanted another man in the bed if would be so willing to put your marriage on the line for a good time .
I just do not understand the world today. It is funny how people believe that everything we do is something new. Every generation following theirs is crazy. This event is not something that was just created. Where do you think the term swinging came from? We as a nation have access to a greater amount of information and news. Our perspective of the world is a little more harsh than it use to be.
If you are against swinging for moral and ethical issues with the bible or whichever religion you choose, then so be it. I can respect that, but attacking others for believing in something different than others...thats tacky.
Why stop at a third party :-D
The difference between an affair and swinging is that in an affair you go out looking for what you do not feel you already have. You are looking for an emotional and physical connection away from your spouse. (some) Swingers indulge into a physical connection to hightend their connection in a more selfless way. I know my wife and I are both really big into pleasuring each other, and not ourselves. What better way to pleasure, which we love doing, another person together than swinging.
The other issues is that we do not just go sleep around with everyone. We are very picky, and prefer to have a friend who is a swinger first, then swing with them later. A friendship is very important in the midst of swinging to us. I have never pushed her into swinging. The general rule of swinging is that you let the woman make the decisions. Impower her, let her take control. Establish rules before the swinging and respect and obey them. We have swung with a female, a couple, and a male. This makes for a fun time.
Swinging doesn't make someone better or worse. People are people. Non-swingers have divorce, drama, and problems just as much as swingers.
Respect and communication are huge in a relationship. |
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January 27, 2008, 1:45 pm PST
Quote From: tinygoddess We have lost sight of why we even get married any longer. We marry because we love the person and want to share our life with them. You take a vow before God and your spouse to stay together until death do you part.
If you are bored in bed and sex can get boring after a few years, go to a counselor, get some new Ideas, buy a book for Gods sake. You don't invite other people into your bed. It is plan an simple cheating and cheating is lying. Couples who swing and invite a third party into their bed are asking for divorce down the road. What is the difference between swinging and going out and having an affair.
Renee here is a message to you. Let Brent go. If this is what he is asking of you than he has no respect for you or your marriage. He is thinking about himself. I am sure that he wants this third party to be another woman. I wonder if you wanted another man in the bed if would be so willing to put your marriage on the line for a good time .
I just do not understand the world today. Your last paragraph says:
Renee here is a message to you. Let Brent go. If this is what he is asking of you than he has no respect for you or your marriage. He is thinking about himself. I am sure that he wants this third party to be another woman. I wonder if you wanted another man in the bed if would be so willing to put your marriage on the line for a good time
If you watched the show you would know that twice he bullied her into having sex with his male friend. This guy doesn't care if it's male, female or whatever. It made me so angry when he said he loved his wife very much. If his idea of love is MAKING his wife do this, when she has told him over and over how sick it makes her, how negatively it affects every moment of her life, then I wonder what in the hell his idea of hate is. That is not love. How selfish is this guy to involve his kids in this.They must have a great opinion of their dad. Even if Doctor Phil gets him some help and he were to change (fat chance of that), her feelings for him will never be the same. I hope she kicks him out and gets back her self esteem. I felt so sorry for her. |
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