Quote From: alpha12I agree with you on that. It seems to me that it is better to know and trust the people with whom you and your spouse are having sex than to have them be interlopers into your marriage as the result of a hasty decision.
I also think you are correct that the stigma comes from our social background. Thousands of years of social conditioning do not go away overnight!
Affairs have been in the forefront of knowledge long enough that while people can condem them, they can also understand and justify them, ie. she was treating him poorly, he was just a scoundrel etc. Swinging is so new to most people that they have not yet come up with a reasoning system that will allow them to cope with the idea. Why the concept "we trust each other and it is a mutual decision" is hard to understand I am not sure of yet.
As far as I know of there is no good reason to get naked with someone who is not your husband or wife.
I don't accept any excuses for extramarital affairs and in my opinion that is what the lifestyle is. How many times has a man screwed around only to say "I don't love her".
Disgusting and demoralizing behavior. I just think it is gross these women and men who have all these different people all over them. GROSS!!!
How can you kiss the lips of your spouse after they have been on someone else's lips, and other places they may have been?
It's all affairs to me. I'd never get naked with anyone but my husband (okay my doctor sees me that way every once in a blue moon, but SHE isn't looking for recreation).
Gross to all you scuzy looser types slurping all over each other. Gross! I am glad you guys keep it your little secret b/c there's about 8 million people I'd have nothing to do with if I knew how easy it is for them to get naked with people who aren't their spouse.
