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Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'
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October 10, 2005, 8:38 am PDT
 Quote From: watacutie I am a full time mom, I have been married for 16 years, I have 3 kids and my husband is in the US army. we travel alot and he is gone alot. so most of the time its just me and the kids, but when he is here he works from 5:30am until 5:00 pm and some time later. I clean and get everything ready for him to come home, dinner is usually cooking when he gets home except soccer night, which all 3 of my kids play. I home school all 3 of my kids, I have no one who can help me, since we are stationed in germany, and our families are all in the state. I feel being a full time mom is hard but very rewarding. I see alot of wives here who are in the milatary who never have time with their kids because of their careers, I see moms who cant stand being home all day with their kids so they go get a job and have no idea what their childs been up to all day. I am very thankful for having a husband who lets me stay home to raise our kids, and I love it when he has a day off and I can spend a day with him , without worrying about having to go to work, and not getting to see him. The days I dont get everything done he comes home and helps. He goes out and makes the money, I get to spend it!!!! Im not saying women shouldn't have a job, but I am saying you cant give a 100% to your family and a 100% to your career, and still have time for yourself. Even as a full time mom its hard to find me time. my husband takes me out every saturday night he is here, to get me out for awhile. We have a very close family, my husband and I work at this family together. Being a house wife is hard but so isnt the infantry. so we both keep the home fires burning, in two differnt ways. I disagree with you statement that you cannot give 100% to your family and to your career...I think that is a bold statement to make when in truth I beleive this is not true for everyone...it may be true for you but you shouldn't make the generalization that it applies to all...I give 100% to my children, my husband and my job...I look at it this way...my job is just that A JOB...when I am there I give my all...then when the day is over I pick up my daughter and son from their grandmothers and we discuss their day...and then we go home and look over her activities that she did that day (my mother has a preschool type setting for her in the morning) and we look at her homework ( a paper my mother has prepared so that we can do an activity together before dinner or bedtime so she feels like a big girl)...we then feed the baby his dinner and get our dinner started so it is ready when daddy gets home...my other son then gets off the bus and we go over what he has done for the day...we review his lessons he has brought home and I help with any homework(if he needs it) and then we all listen as he practices his guitar...I am involved in every aspect of my childrens lives...I am there for evey gymnastics practice and every guitar lesson and know all about my sons afterschool activities (per mediation and choir)...short of going to school with him I don't think I could be much more involved...the children then attack daddy when he gets home and we all eat dinner and then is play time and bath time and story time and the kids are in bed by 7:00 silently reading to themselves until 7:30 then lights out...it is all very peaceful after that and my husband and I get a few hours of quality time together...I couldn't ask for more..I think it is all a matter of WHAT WORKS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY and between you and your husband...I don't think there is a right or a wrong... |
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