Quote From: bearcourageIt is so nice to see someone of your frame of mind to post on this subject. I agree pretty much with everything you said. And you are right, there are people from all walks of life that swing, including ministers and preachers. I'm not saying that to inflame anyone, just merely a fact. In regard to the children, I understand what you are saying. My husband and I have discussed that many times and to be honest we don't have an answer for that right now. I hope that we have a while to come up with an answer since the kids are ages 5 and 7 but you never can tell....lol. A couple of months ago my then 4 year old ask me to tell her EXACTLY how babies were made and I did, honestly in an age appropriate matter. I figure we will do the same if and when they know that we do this. Like alot of this we do as parents, gonna have to play that one by ear...lol
My husband and I discussed it, but neither one of us has any interest in pursuing it, but that's our opinion, and no it isn't the main topic of conversation between myself or swiging friends, hell I don't ask single friends " So who are you sleeping with this week ", so why would I ask the swingers ?
Actually, a couple of years ago, my husband wanted to go to a nudist beach, I wasn't sure about it, but suits were optional so I said fine. He figured I suppose it would be the Actress Supermodel types, was his face RED when the first thing we seen was an elderly man jogging on the beach, everything hanging out, I LMAO'ed so hard. At these places you see scars, wrinkles etc. Would I have taked my then 16 year old and 14 year old, probably not, but we were honest about where we were going ( you can IMAGINE the reaction ), but then we are talking about THEIR comfort level, maybe one day they'll want to go, or not. I may not have been so explicit if they were only 5 and 7.
But then when it comes to things like sex and relationships, I've seen all kinds and what it comes down to is what works for the INDIVIDUALS involved, I have been often condemned for living Common Law for the last 19 years, funny we've been together longer than my friends who did the whole Ceremony, we've raised two bright well adjusted kids, and we are quite confident in the stability of our relationship. Tradition has its place, but humans have always found ways to buck traditions and to find different ways to live and love one another.
