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Quote From: bearcourage

I do feel for you as I am a parent, although my children are still young, we always feel the need to protect our children.  Like someone else said, I will play a bit of devil's advocate.  Are you sure of what you are seeing is low self esteem or the fact you are so bother by what they do?  If she is in fact doing this to merely please him then I can guarantee the relationship will not last (and I do not under any circumstances agree with one person making another feel forced into this lifestyle).  One of the codes that alot of swingers live by is that they do not play with anyone that is being pushed into it or isn't totally comfortable with it and believe you me, it is always obvious.  The last thing most of us want is to deal with or get into the middle of any drama.  Maybe you and she should take baby steps in getting the relationship back between you.  Possibly meet, just the two of you, and you tell her as unemotionally as you can the you don't agree with what she is doing but that it is the last time that you will bring it up and that you would appreciate her not bringing the subject up.  I'm sure the two of you have so much more within your mother/daughter relationship that you can share as opposed to something that you so venomitly disagree on.  I do wish you well.  And like I said, when you do speak to her, try hard to do so without getting emotional.  I say that because if you get emotional, she will go on the defensive and no one will be hearing anyone and you will end up right back where you are now.  Good Luck!