Replies to '12/28 Wifestyles'

I'm not going to sit here and argue with everyone because everyone has different ideas about roles within a family.  What is best for one, is not necessarily best for another so I think it is a moot point to be going back and forth.  As for poster Bill....has anyone ever heard of a grief poster?  That is someone who doesn't really feel the way they posted, but writes an explosive post just to get people going.  That's how I feel about him.   

Ok, so, how have I seen the show already, you ask?  We are a military family stationed overseas and we get the current day's show at 8:30 in the morning here and we are 6 hours ahead of EST.  If Dr. Phil comes on at 3 pm on the East Coast, we get it over 12 hours before you do.   

What I saw today on the show affected me deeply.  I don't cry very often when watching, but I did today.  This woman was so beaten down, her eyes were empty.  She is married to a man with a critical spirit who doesn't think anything she does is good enough.  He expects her to clean the house while dressed in a french maid outfit or wash his car in a bikini.  I won't go into all the details of the show since you haven't seen it yet, but I was so saddened by how this man treated the woman he pledged to love his whole life.  Her spirit is broken and whether or not you believe that a woman should be at home or be in the work force, I don't think anyone can excuse the emotional abuse of this man.  I truly don't think any of it sunk in, either. 

Dr. Phil also has a woman on there who believes that all women were put on this earth to serve men.  (There you go Bill, find her sister for yourself!)  I think that is all fine and dandy if she feels that way but I think it is wrong of her to try to force her philosophy on everyone else.  The biggest problem I had with her was that she seemed to address the red haired woman in such a way that I felt she was also berating her for not being "good enough".   

I truly feel that Dr. Phil should have had a husband on there who isn't like the guy on the show.  Hearing it from a man that loves, cherishes and respects his wife and what she does could have put a whole different perspective on the entire show.   

I can say all this because I am a truly blessed woman.  I am a stay at home mom and have been for many years.  No, the house isn't spotless and I've put on a few pounds since our wedding day, but I have a husband who knows what true love is.  This man, no matter how I feel, or look,  will put his arms around me and say, "You are beautiful today.  You are an awesome mom.  You are an awesome wife and no one could ever take care of me better than you."   You want to talk about feeling validated and appreciated?  No, he's not the best at helping with the housework, but he doesn't moan and complain if it isn't done all the time either.   

I really want to see a follow up to this show and see if this couple can come out of this.  My heart broke for her when I looked into her eyes.  She is a broken person.