Quote From: elflautaI am a single, bisexual man that has had sex with married men most of my life. There seems to be a new wave of men wanting to explore this type of secret fantasy life. We don't love or care about each other. We simply enjoy each others bodies and then we go home to our families and resume our lives. I know I have personally had the discussion about this being wrong with most of them, but they don't look at it as cheating because there are no emotions involved. We just meet up, have our little fun and go our separate ways until the next meeting. Woman certainly will never understand it, but believe me, there are a large number of married men that do this at parks, theaters, in cars and at their own homes. In prison or jail it's called, "gay for the stay". Then when they go home it's back to heterosexual relations. Just look around, keep your eyes open and you might just see someone you know having a little fun.
How many men who cheat with prostitutes love them ? They don't, whether its the street level or High Class call girl, there is neither love nor caring, just sex. Same thing with the married men who look at bars for the one night stand ? it's All still CHEATING, the wife dosen't know, and the men are being dishonest and exposing their wives to God Knows WHAT
The big difference is, with swinging or openmarriages, the spouse KNOWS and often knows the other person. Because there is a caring basis for these relationships, the partner is more likely to be careful about STD's and do EVERYTHING to prevent them.
They don't have a need to meet in dark alleys, theatres cars or anypalce like that, THAT is more degrading then the act itself.
Being bisexual is NO SIN (though I'm sure there are many who would LOVE to jump all over that, spare me the Bible quotes please), however, a person should be given the CHOICE as to whether or not this is a problem for them, some women are open to it, others aren't that's life, but SHE should be given the choice and the time to decide if she can live with it or not (same thing goes for husbands), but this is WRONG the lies (wouldn't you agree that one should be able to TRUST and BELIVE IN one'sspouse) a marriage based on lies and deceit (and this is EXACTLY what these men are doing ) is NO MARRIAGE at all.
