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July 29, 2005, 6:58 am PDT
 Quote From: labelfree I didn't see that woman but I am not sure if that is the same woman as the one on Donny' D BIG IDEA the other night who was talking about the LOST boy's. That woman was also brave.. I give her alot of credit too if its not the same person...
Do any of you all experience this in your life...Please tell me what the heck its called because I was trying to explain this to my husband but really he just DOES NOT GET IT and I even REALLY encouraged him to READ DR. Phil's BOOK and he skimmed through THEN he THOUGHT after finding something he was just able to identify with instead of reading and grasping the WHOLE concept he was Dr. Phil's equal.ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
>>Here it is lets say we weren't sexually abused...we were all involved in an airplane crash..every time we see it on TV <an airplane crash>not because we didn't work out our feelings in TRAUMA therapy....or because.....We see dead bodies.....<an airplane crash>We feel....We feel for the new family's that are effected....We feel......We see....the airplane devastation.....and for me inside not that I get "CRAZY" because I don't I get sickened...I get saddened...I get...alot of different things...
Am I not over my airplane crash? Or do I just have a BIG HEART? Is this residual effects of abuse...Will this ever go away? I am speaking of Shasta and her Brother Dillon. I wasn't Hyper vigilant at my T. V. Screen but I was saying prayers for those kids....And all kids that are abused or kidnapped or taken away! Hmmmm... now I cant seem to correct the title headers either. I meant to say Not over it or big heart? And I still cant figure out the paragraphs!(you have paragraphs. Fill me in on how you do them?) So far im not a fan of this new format. LOL
Back to the subject... I personally think that when people suffer it makes them more aware of others feelings. You often find those who have suffered greatly are incredibly compassionate and caring and quite in tune with others. There are those who seem to harden because of it but I think they are the minority. In my experiences, the more people suffer the more compassion they have towards others. They have been hurt and do not wish the same on anyone.
I am like you in feeling quite bad when I see or hear certain things on the news. It really effects me. Even to the point where I wont watch much news and make my husband fill me in on whats going on while he buffers for me. Often times it effects me physically, not just emotionally. More then a few times I have run to the bathroom literally sick over what I have just seen. There are even a few Dr. Phil episodes I wont watch. Course, then I feel like a coward for a bit, but always tell myself it isnt worth it to put myself through that.
So... hyper vigilant? Could be. But I lean more towards we just have stronger emotional reactions because of our pasts. And I dont necesarily think that is a bad thing. I would prefer stronger emotions then none at all. :) |
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July 29, 2005, 8:51 am PDT
Quote From: labelfree I didn't see that woman but I am not sure if that is the same woman as the one on Donny' D BIG IDEA the other night who was talking about the LOST boy's. That woman was also brave.. I give her alot of credit too if its not the same person...
Do any of you all experience this in your life...Please tell me what the heck its called because I was trying to explain this to my husband but really he just DOES NOT GET IT and I even REALLY encouraged him to READ DR. Phil's BOOK and he skimmed through THEN he THOUGHT after finding something he was just able to identify with instead of reading and grasping the WHOLE concept he was Dr. Phil's equal.ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
>>Here it is lets say we weren't sexually abused...we were all involved in an airplane crash..every time we see it on TV <an airplane crash>not because we didn't work out our feelings in TRAUMA therapy....or because.....We see dead bodies.....<an airplane crash>We feel....We feel for the new family's that are effected....We feel......We see....the airplane devastation.....and for me inside not that I get "CRAZY" because I don't I get sickened...I get saddened...I get...alot of different things...
Am I not over my airplane crash? Or do I just have a BIG HEART? Is this residual effects of abuse...Will this ever go away? I am speaking of Shasta and her Brother Dillon. I wasn't Hyper vigilant at my T. V. Screen but I was saying prayers for those kids....And all kids that are abused or kidnapped or taken away! You have posed some interesting questions. Since not all people who were abused have sympathy for others I am wondering if it has to do with the level of hurt we experienced and where we are in our fight to overcome it. I wonder if people who turn around and abuse others have completely blocked out any feelings they have and so they never understand what they are doing to their victims. I know I blocked out the feelings I had and never dealt with them until I was older and it makes you a cold person toward what anybody thinks or feels. Once I started learning and dealing with what happened to me then I felt sad for myself and anybody else who has dealt with this.
The expolygamist girl that I saw confronted her father. He was really a piece of work, not sure if he is just uneducated or has mental problems. He told her he didn't remember it being that bad for her and thast she was one of the few that he hadn't hardly done anything to at all. Then he compared it to checking a herd of cattle to see if they were growing and ready for breeding. I was very happy for her to face him and it was so easy to see what kind of man he is. |
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