Replies to '01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs'

Dr. Phil,

  It is amazing that you are always bragging about the amount of research "your people" do on every topic you do on your show,yet in showing a sample of what 4-8 million people do in America...you chose to show two couples(one who were not even really swingers) who were unhappy in the lifestyle.

  You obviously failed to interview the millions of others who are VERY happy doing what we do and.yes.it does work for many people for many years.

  We do understand that it is hard for those not in the lifestyle to understand how we could be happy and how swinging could ,in fact,strengthen a  marriage. Well,my husband and I have been together for 15 years,swinging for 6 of those and we are closer now than we have ever been. Most people can't get past the "intimacy" of the entire thing. When in fact, it is  just sex.

 And in response to your statement to finding something that we may like more out there. ....the more we do this...the more we see how lucky we are to have  each other and that although we play somewhere else every now and then...it always feels so good to know we have the best with each other. It has made us appreciate each other even more.

  We don't expect anyone to accept our way of thinking, but to say that it does not work is just wrong. It does work for many people. Maybe playing tennis every day is not what appeals to me. I don't  judge you for that.

  I am just disappointed that you gave swinging such a skewed view in the eyes of millions of Americans who may have never heard of it.

  I believe you let your personal opinion  get in the way of the facts in this case.

  I watch you every day and was very disappointed that you were not more professional with this subject.

  BTW, I have at least 100 swinger couples who are friends we have made through the years that would say the same thing. Since I am older,,our friends are as well,and most have been swinging a minimum of 5 years....so me as many as 20 years,so it does work.

Dr. Phil,

  It is amazing that you are always bragging about the amount of research "your people" do on every topic you do on your show,yet in showing a sample of what 4-8 million people do in America...you chose to show two couples(one who were not even really swingers) who were unhappy in the lifestyle.

  You obviously failed to interview the millions of others who are VERY happy doing what we do and.yes.it does work for many people for many years.

  We do understand that it is hard for those not in the lifestyle to understand how we could be happy and how swinging could ,in fact,strengthen a  marriage. Well,my husband and I have been together for 15 years,swinging for 6 of those and we are closer now than we have ever been. Most people can't get past the "intimacy" of the entire thing. When in fact, it is  just sex.

 And in response to your statement to finding something that we may like more out there. ....the more we do this...the more we see how lucky we are to have  each other and that although we play somewhere else every now and then...it always feels so good to know we have the best with each other. It has made us appreciate each other even more.

  We don't expect anyone to accept our way of thinking, but to say that it does not work is just wrong. It does work for many people. Maybe playing tennis every day is not what appeals to me. I don't  judge you for that.

  I am just disappointed that you gave swinging such a skewed view in the eyes of millions of Americans who may have never heard of it.

  I believe you let your personal opinion  get in the way of the facts in this case.

  I watch you every day and was very disappointed that you were not more professional with this subject.

  BTW, I have at least 100 swinger couples who are friends we have made through the years that would say the same thing. Since I am older,,our friends are as well,and most have been swinging a minimum of 5 years....so me as many as 20 years,so it does work.