Why are you comparing relationships? Everyone's gears work a different way. To put your relationship on a pedestal is not a very nice thing to do. Your judgement of what is a healthy and happy marriage should not be of what you were taught. You are very stubborn and very hardheaded. So I know my post will mean nothing to you.
My wife and I are swingers. We are both bi-sexual, we both enjoy life to its fullest. We are city folk, but anything we do together is amazing. None of our regular friends know of our lifestyle. They would agree with us, that we are in a beautiful relationship. We have 2 kids, and raise them well. We do not teach masterbation is wrong, we do not teach that having a penis or vagina is bad. We teach a healthy lifestyle, and open minded perspectives allow you to be more creative and less restricted in life. The less restrictions allow them to have more fun in life. We do not condone of sleeping around. We have strict rules, but the kids understand them.
Do you not respect other people, or have honor, or patience, or love with other people? Of course my wife is number 1. My wife comes before my kids, and family and everyone or every thing. A healthy relationship between the wife and hubby always lead to healthy kids, healthy family, healthy life. I have respect to those I know deserve it.
My wife is my soul mate. I know this.
