Replies to '01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs'

Okay, do I care if my neighbors are swingers (at their age I'd say more power to them ), no.  Would I care if my neighbor was a pedophile, yes.  Why the difference, its quite simple really,

The swingers are not hurting me or mine, chances are I wouldn't even be aware of it, the pedophile on the other hand can hurt my children or other neighborhood children, they pose a threat.

As for saying, "If I found out my children's caregiver did this, I wouldn't allow my children back " tell me this, unless they do it in FRONT of the children in their care or they are promoting it to the children in your care, why should what they do when your children aren't there be of any consequence, if it dosen't affect the quality of care they received, then its none of  your business.

To the Moral Majority, I would ask with all the protestations why do you feel threatened by this ? If you are secure in your own marriages or relationships, why is this a problem for you ? Isn't it exhausting for you to try dictating your sense of Morals and values to those who have made it clear they don't share them ?  Every one of the "Swingers" that have posted here acknowledged the fact this lifestyle is not for everyone, and NOT EVERYONE should try, and I've said MYSELF NO ONE should ever be FORCED or COERCED into ANYTHING they are not comfortable with, or DISGUSTS THEM.  If you feel that no one else belongs in YOUR marriage  or relationship ( I feel the same way ) then they shouldn't be there, and if your partner insists, then maybe its time to rethink the relationship (by not listening to you or your concerns or needs shows a lack of respect and love for the other person).

To the Swingers, as long as BOTH partners agree to the lifestyle and are comfortable with it, so be it. If you are being threatened with the other leaving because you won't participate, then let them leave, but if you are a willing partner, and you are comfortable with it, whatever.  The ones I've known (and there are exceptions in ANY group of individuals) are VERY careful  and aware of potential diseases and how to prevent the spread.  Swingers tend to seek out like minded couples, they aren't going to put flyers in the mailbox, or go door to door trying to recruit.  Matter of fact I wouldn't have known if I wasn't told, hasn't stopped me from going out for coffee with them, any more than a single friend sleeping with her date would stop me.  Its not for me to impose my sense of ethics or morality onto someone else, whether I agree with their choices or not.

I've always found that a self-righteous High Moral attitude has kept people apart, there will always be people in this life that don't share your views, it dosen't mean they are "sick", "evil" or "immoral" just different.